DISCRETION

I remember when I first started to blog my favorite bloggers were those who were honest, open, and vulnerable to their readers.  I like that they didn’t care if they cursed, gave away their engagement secrets or said politically incorrect stuff.  So, when I started to write my own posts, I felt the need to be just as open and honest about my own personal life as the influencers that I admired.

I feel as though I’ve been pretty good about opening up about my personal life.  Whether it be my career changes, my skincare routine or my dating life.  Truth be told, I felt as if I was writing to no one because I wasn’t sure if anyone actually cared to read my blog.  However, with everything that’s been happening to me lately, I’m almost concerned about how much I’m disclosing of my life and whether I should write with discretion.

This is all spurned from last night’s event.  I’ll explain.  I’ve mentioned in a recent post that I am having career changes.  With that said, I’m back to waitressing at my restaurant job.  I served a very lovely couple last night.  I served them before about two months ago, and it just happen so that I was their waitress again when they returned two months later.  I won’t use their real names, so let’s just call them Harry* and Sally*.  Harry and Sally are a bit older.  They’re not like my parents age, but perhaps in their late 40s to early 50s.  Sally and Harry seemed to be having a fabulous time, but after a few drinks Sally began to tell me about their relationship.  Mind you, Harry is sitting right there in front of her.  She told me that they’ve been seeing each other on and off since 2013, and that everything was great except his infidelity.  Screech!  Pull the brakes.  Awkward situation.  Harry is trying to be polite of the predicament they’re in, and mentioned that I’m not the first person to become their relationship therapist.  Sally, (hopefully very drunk), was very confident and secure about how little discretion she has about anything.

Sally then continues on about how Harry’s ex-wife is now back in the picture, and that he’s just stringing her along.  As embarrassing as it was for Harry to sit there through the whole situation, it was more strange for me because I did’t know if Sally wanted me to chime in and agree with her.  From a female to a female, I would completely empathize with her situation.  She’s beautiful, tall and with a great career.  He’s charming, short and rich AF.  However, Harry doesn’t seem to know what he wants.  I found all this out in a matter of 15 minutes.  TMI?  Definitely.

This is what got me thinking about how much I broadcast to the whole world about my own love life.  I never mention my boyfriend’s name.  I don’t really ever talk about him or post pictures of us, and hopefully I’ll never use this outlet to air out our dirty laundry.  I think there’s a certain level of discretion we should all use when it comes to blogging about our personal life.  Sure I would love to be able to connect with my readers more by letting them know of my ups and downs, but I feel that privacy is still important, especially when it comes to relationships.  By no means will I be censoring myself, but I just wanted to let y’all know if you ever felt like I was holding myself back.

Hopefully everyone had a great Valentine’s Day, and I hope you continue to enjoy your long President’s Day weekend.  Drink responsibly.  Xo!

Bikini Top: Ark Swimwear / Bikini Bottom: Ark Swimwear / Top: Flair The Label / Sunnies: Illesteva / Hat: Sole Society / Necklace: Sugarfix for BaubleBar / Hair Scrunchie: Forever 21

Photographed by Stefanie Meier

GALENTINE’S DAY: WHAT PINTEREST IS ALL ABOUT

 

Go ahead.  Scroll through and look at the pics first.  Feel free to drop your jaw a few times or say that’s ‘So effin gorgeous!’ as many times as you want.  I won’t even be offended if you don’t end up reading my post.  Pinterest is about to get some new pins.

So here’s the story of how I got to participate in one of the most beautifully curated photo/video shoots of my blogger life.  Last weekend I had the privilege of spending a mock Galentine’s Day with 6 other beautiful influencers.  The brainchild of this whole concept, Heather of @heather_roams, reached out to each of us with this magical, boho vision.  Though I have never met any of the other ladies before this beach day, I was immediately welcomed with bright smiles and warm personalities.  How we got away with no egos, no complaints and no drama is beyond me.  It can be a bitch (pun intended) to get 7 women who are complete strangers to act like they like one another, but it’s a whole other experience when we all actually get along.  We truly embraced the idea of Galentine’s Day as well as each other.


What made this shoot even more beautiful and special was that the crew and talent were predominantly women.  Other than the film crew, the rest of the team were all women.  #hifive

I know I’ve used the word beautiful a gazillion times already, but that’s literally what this shoots was…fucking BEAUTIFUL.  I wouldn’t be surprised if you googled the word beautiful and one of these images pop up in your search.

I’m going to be doing more videos and Vlogging, so be sure to subscribe to my YouTube channel!

I’m so glad I got to share this experience with these 6 gorgeous women.  Be sure to check out their Instagram feeds!

@heather_roams

@withjenrachel

@kendall.fuhrman

@amy_marietta

@themadgrace

@brendawasylucha

Other than the images that are shown here, I also shot some other looks with two very talented and gorgeous photographers, Carrie Rogers and Lauren Newman, who are both new to the LA area.

 Btw, I left the images in the filtered edits that were provided by the photographers so you can distinguish between their work.  Carrie’s images have a more soft and romantic hue, while Lauren’s images are more bright with high contrast.

Thank you to everyone who made these happy moments possible!  Happy Galentine’s Day ladies! Xo!

Planner: Weddings By Sabrina / Videographer: Alpha Wolves / Photographer: Lauren Newman Photography / Photographer: Carrie Rogers Photography / Florals: Sibyl Sophia / Makeup Artist: Tami Bernard Makeup / Catering: Urban Palate / Calligraphy: Ink Topiary / Table: American Wood Importers

THAT LA LIFE

The past month has been one helluva roller coaster ride.  I’m kind of stuck between a rock and a hard place.  Confused?  Let me start from the beginning.  You know that saying, ‘be careful what you wish for’?  Well, it couldn’t be more true for me than anything else right now.  I think I may have complained too much and prayed too often to the man upstairs for some way out of my 4 part-time jobs, and my prayers have been answered.

In just the past week I’ve received news that’s given me more…”free time” in my once hectic schedule.  My LA theatrical agent and I have parted ways, and my contract for my social media consulting gig had expired.  I was quite bewildered because this affects my finances greatly.  Not that I was ballin’ to begin with, but now I’m really in a rut.  However, even in all this chaos, I’m still not quite sure I want to go back to the restaurant industry.  I’ve pretty much made up my mind last year that I no longer wanted to be a waitress anymore.  I’ve learned certain skill sets and gained work experience doing social media consulting, and I think I’d like to keep at it.  No worries, acting is still in the forefront of it all, but I can’t live off auditions, callbacks, and free skincare.

I was reading an article written by Stacy London on Refinery 29 about how she went broke and felt broken last year.  This article couldn’t have come at a better time.  I had once gone through a case of depression when I had to get surgery, so I could easily empathize with Stacy.  My surgery wasn’t to the extent of her spinal cord surgery, but it did keep me out of the public and into hiding.  Her depression led to reckless spending, which then snowballed into a bunch of other horrible events.  2017 was definitely not her year, and right now it seems like 2018 isn’t really mine.

I can’t say that I have a step by step plan laid out for how I plan to get a new theatrical agent or land a part time job that helps pay rent while I pursue the world of entertainment.  However, I’m not sitting on my ass waiting for CAA to come knocking on my door.  I know where I fell short with my previous agent, and have updated my headshots and resume.  I plan on getting even better headshots with Theo and Juliet, (seriously, they’re worth the investment).  I’ll be reaching out to brands and PR agencies to see if I can do more campaign work for Kangthropologie, and I’ll be cooking at home more often to save money.

I have been through the many ups and downs of living the LA actor’s life, and this is just another hurdle for me to cross.  The key thing is to admit where you went wrong and to move forward from that experience.  I’m blessed to have parents who are supportive of me and my endeavors.  Let’s pray that this is just a small hiccup.

Top: Beach Riot / Bottom: Beach Riot / Cardigan: Spell & The Gypsy Collective / Backpack: Library LA / Glasses: Urban Outfitters / Necklace: Sugarfix by Baublebar / Lariat: Luv AJ

Photographed by Stefanie Meier

LONG GONE

I was going through my computer looking at my photos, and noticed this folder of pics from June last year that I NEVER posted.  What a stinking waste of great pics!  I don’t care if they’re dated.  I like them, and I feel like sharing them with you.  This was shot just a couple of months before I lopped off like 8 inches of my beautiful long hair.  The days of dreading to wash my hair because of how long it takes to wash, blow dry, and curl my ridiculously long hair are ‘long gone’.

Do I have regrets? Yes, especially looking at these pics.  But I know that my hair will eventually grow back, and I’ll have the same boring long hairstyle all over again.  (One of the main reasons I decided to cut my hair was because I had the same hairstyle for almost 15 years).

There are other things in my life that draws the same kind of emotion, like ex-boyfriends or clothes for instance.  You know that you want a change and that you need to get rid of the old in order to make room for the potentially new.  However, once you get rid of it, you can’t help but miss it.  You have sleepless nights wondering if you made the right choice.  You go back and reminisce by looking at old pictures, (haha!).  That is, until the new stuff comes along.  A new leather jacket, that fresh pair of platform heels or that bubbly feeling when you first kiss.

It’s always hard to let go of something you’ve had for a long time.  There are memories and emotions attached to that person or thing, but always remember that there’s a reason why you wanted to get rid of it in the first place.  It either no longer fits on your body or in your life.  I don’t know how this post just went from chopping off my hair to a self-help guide, but I personally have a hard time letting go of stuff.  I’m not a hoarder, but I have clothes hanging on top of clothes in my closet.  I always think that it’s a waste to let go of something I’ve either barely worn or forgotten about.  But that’s exactly the reason why I should sell or donate it.  If it’s that forgettable or unwearable, then odds are it’ll continue to be forgettable and unwearable.

So, to loop this all back, the things that you truly want or love will either grow back (my hair) or reappear so you can post on your blog (my pictures).  The things that are not memorable will need to be cleared out.  Spring is just around the corner, and there’s no better time for a spring cleaning than now.  Happy Tuesday!


Romper: Flair The Label (similar look) / Bag: Coach / Shoes: Free People (similar look) / Ring: Free People (similar look)

Photos by Mire Yang

THE VACAY AFTER YOUR VACATION

We’re a little over a week in on the new year, and most of us are slowly making our way back to reality, aka work.  However, I’m already thinking of all the places I want to visit this year.  I want to make my first trip as early as end of January/beginning of February.  Call this my vacay from my vacation.

I’ve been throwing ideas and destinations at my boyfriend, and he thinks I just want to go to these specific locations for the ‘gram.  True.  BUT, I also want to go because I want to go.  Some of these places are easy to get to, and some are just bucket list dreams, but here are my top destinations for 2018:

MEXICO CITY, MEXICO

The odds of this trip happening soon, and possibly be my first destination of the year is high.  Very high.  I’m actually hoping to buy plane tix by tomorrow.  (Yes, as in Wednesday).  I’ve heard nothing but great things about Mexico City.  The plane fares are very well priced, (~$300 from LAX), the food is phenomenal and cheap, and it’s apparently a pretty safe city to visit.  I’m just excited about the tequila and architecture…you know, for the ‘gram.

MAMMOTH MOUNTAIN

I’m not a big skier or snowboarder, but my boyfriend loves snow like white on rice.  He’s an avid skier and tries to hit the slopes as often as possible.  Mammoth Mountain is just close enough to go for a long weekend, (maybe MLK?), and has all the bells and whistles you need for the skier at heart.  We’ll probably hit this place up in the next weekend or so, and all that powder will look great as my backdrop.

SEYCHELLES, AFRICA

Seychelles has been on my mind since the beginning of the year when we met this older couple who just got back from Africa visiting The Giraffe Manor in Nairobi, Kenya.  I know, Kenya is another country within the continent of Africa, but this got me thinking about traveling to Africa.  Seychelles is just about as pretty as it gets for beach destinations.  The water, the islands, the year round beautiful weather are all screaming for me to come visit and take lots and lots of pictures while wearing the endless amount of swimwear that I buy but never wear.  This is the year Seychelles.  This is the year.

SEOUL, SOUTH KOREA

As if I didn’t watch enough #Kdrama to make up for the trip itself, I think it’s still best for me to experience it all in real life.  I am so utterly intrigued by Seoul and it’s Korean culture.  The food I’ve had here in K-Town is probably amplified by 10 folds there.  My good friend, Stripes Collide, is Korean, and she has promised me a trip to Korea.  I’m going to hold her to her words  and make sure this trip comes into fruition.  If not, I’ll always have to wonder if it’s all one big TV drama.

I’m sure there will be a trip or two to Palm Springs, Joshua Tree, Santa Barbara or NYC, but I’m really looking forward to those long travel, out of the country destinations.  Here’s to many more stamps on my passport this year!

Dress: Reformation / Boots: IRO (sold out | similar look) / Sunnies: Crap Eyewear / Earrings: Sugarfix by BaubleBar (on clearance)

Photographed by Laci Havens

MY DTLA

I am ashamed to say that I don’t know LA well outside of my little WeHo bubble.  I have lived here for over 9 years, and I still don’t venture out much from my mid-Wilshire/WeHo area.  And by “don’t venture out much” I mean I have only driven 54,000 miles on my car since 2009.  The average person drives 12,000 miles per year.  I have driven half of that.  I know that Arcadia is a city east of where I live, but I couldn’t tell you if it’s north or south of I-10 or how to even get there.  So when my now boyfriend tells me he lives in #DTLA, I was ignorant enough to think of only one thing, “that’s where Skid Row is, right?”

The DTLA that was 9 years ago…shit, the DTLA that was 2 years ago, is not the same DTLA that is today.  From Arts District, to The Broad, to Little Tokyo, DTLA has flourished, (to say the least), and is growing and expanding by the day.  Expensive commercial and residential real estate are popping up everywhere taking over junk yards and worn down, vacant factories.  Before I started dating my boyfriend I only knew of Bestia, the rooftop bar of The Standard Hotel, and Bottega Louie.  I have a whole new insight to what IS Downtown Los Angeles, and I would like to share with you my fav DTLA spots.

FEED ME I’M STARVING

My options for where to eat are somewhat limited as I am a pescatarian.  God bless my carnivorous meat eating boyfriend for being so accommodating, and have taken me to some of the best restaurants in DTLA.  The ones that we tend to go back to are:

Bäco Mercat – We come here for dinner and always get their Double Mushroom Coca, which is essentially a flatbread pizza that will blow your tastebuds.  SO EFFIN GOOD!  I also highly recommend their Moxie cocktail if you like a good bourbon drink.

Poppy + Rose – My favorite weekend brunch spot that doesn’t take reservations.  It’s in the middle of the Flower District, and yet people drive in from all over the city to wait in line for 30-45 mins to dine here. Yup.  It’s that good.  They only offer the Eggs Benedict on the weekends, and the hollandaise sauce is worth every calorie.

Lao Tao – As if fate couldn’t have been more perfect, one of my boyfriend’s favorite restaurants is a Taiwanese street food restaurant in the heart of Chinatown.  (In case you didn’t know, I’m also Taiwanese).  There aren’t many vegetarian options for me, but everything here reminds me of home.  We normally come here when Pine and Crane seem too far out of the way.

KazuNori – I wasn’t sure if I should list this place as it seemed too obvious of a choice, but it would be wrong of me to not mention it as we probably come here once a month.  Unless you’ve been living under a rock, you would know of the deliciousness that is the hand rolls of KazuNori.  Once again, no reservations, small dining area, and the hand rolls are made to order right in front of you.  If you want an under $30 quality Japanese-cuisine meal, this is your holy grail.

SEE AND BE SEEN WITH A COCKTAIL IN HAND

We’re old and we don’t go out much, but when we do, this is usually where we end up:

Broken Shaker – The rooftop bar of the new hip Freehand Hotel has some of the best sunset views you can find in DTLA.  We haven’t day partied here, but there’s a pool (only for hotel guests) and there’s an award winning bar.  Nuff said.

Pattern Bar – Somehow we normally end up here after dinner in downtown.  They play great house music, and often fly in DJs from around the world to play there.  Their drinks are reasonably priced, and t’s also just down the street from my boyfriend’s place.  We can stumble back home without too much hassle (i.e. #NYE2018).

Cliftons – I can’t explain this place well enough but to say, “you just have to go there to experience it”.  Every floor has a different theme and genre, and you feel like you might be in a fun house/cafeteria/bar/dance floor.  We went here on our first official date and I can’t wait to go back.  It’s just a really cool f*cking fun place.

DO IT FOR THE ‘GRAM

None of this would become what it is if it wasn’t for the power of social media.  Artwork, murals and graffiti are placed all over DTLA for the sole purpose of being ‘grammed.  These are some of my favorite places to explore and take pics:

The Broad – Yes, the Infinity Mirrored Room is sold out.  Yes, the general admission tickets are also sold out.  Getting admission to see artwork here is like trying to get front row tickets to Taylor Swift’s concert.  However, if you have the patience and are free next month on a Tuesday at noon, you can get free general admission tickets to wait in line for an hour to see the Infinity Mirrored Room for 45 seconds.  Worth the InstaStory post.

Jesus Saves – The landmark neon signs of the Ace Hotel Downtown Los Angeles is right outside of my boyfriend’s window.  It’s definitely a cool spot to take pictures, but the Ace Hotel offers so many more nooks and crannies for you to snap pics.  The hotel rooms can be quite small, and their brunch can be quite salty, but overall this is a cool place to hangout.  If nothing else, do it for the ‘gram.

There are still many new places within #DTLA that I have yet to explore.  Any suggestions of places I may not know about?  Let me know!

Top: ZARA (sold out | similar look) / Jumper: Free People / Glasses: ZeroUV / Bag: The Daily Edited / Earrings (main hoops): Luv AJ / Earrings (assorted hoops): Luv AJ

Photographed by Laci Havens

BECOMING A BETTER BLOGGER

Happy 2018 everyone!  Hope your new year’s celebration was more eventful than mine.  Not to mislead you, it was great and with wonderful company, but my new year’s eve wasn’t full of dancing, raging and taking fun pictures until the wee hours of the night.  We pretty much called it quits after countdown, went home and fell asleep.  Haha!  It’s what happens when you get old.  I didn’t put much effort or time into planning NYE, and this got me thinking about what other stuff I’ve been slacking on…like my blog.

To be honest, I’m not that great of a blogger, and I find it hard for me to offer blogging tips when I don’t follow through myself.  It’s not so much my lack of passion as it is my lack of focus.  It was really hard for me to focus on KANGTHROPOLOGIE when I had to work 3 other part-time jobs.  However, that’s no longer an excuse, and now I want to concentrate on the things that I can do to become a better blogger (BBB).

BBB #1: READ

I don’t read enough.  Period.  It’s not just the books I own, but I need to start reading more online news articles, blog posts, newsletters, etc..  There is so much information out there, and I’m missing it all by watching Netflix marathons.  I think the more I read other blogs of fashion and lifestyle bloggers similar to myself, the more I can figure out what works and what doesn’t.  Why are some blogs more successful than others?  Are there new topics that spark people’s interests?

If nothing else, reading other content will inspire me to create new content and come up with better ideas and topics.  By reading other blogger posts, this will also help me become a better engager, which leads me to the second thing I need to improve on…

BBB #2: ENGAGE

I’m really bad at this.  REALLY BAD.  (Sigh).  It’s really important for me to engage not only with my readers, but with other bloggers and brands.  I have a blogger friend that’s really great at this.  I’m always at awe of her when she tells me so-and-so wrote about this on her blog, or sends me articles that I would find interesting.

It’s not hard.  It’s just a click away.  I need to be more proactive and reach out to other bloggers that I find interesting or have similar aesthetics.  People respond better when they know that you have an interest in what they have to say.  It’s a two-way street and it’s always good to support your fellow bloggers.

BBB #3: PLAN

My best collaborations and content have been those that were well planned.  The idea, the concept, the mood have all been laid out before the execution, and the images that come about are some that I will remember and treasure forever.  Obviously, I’m not referring to OOTDs but the trips and seasonal campaigns.  I would like to plan out more trips in advance and come up with seasonal campaigns at least a month before execution.  Mood boards and media kits are very helpful when you’re reaching out to brands, and those take time to curate.  My goal is to put in more effort into all of my events, no matter how big or small.

 

These are the top 3 #BBB things I can improve on that I can think of off the top of my head.  I’d be more than grateful to hear your thoughts on how I can improve.  I want to put my best blogger foot forward this year, and your input would be much appreciated.  Thanks for being so patient with me the last 2 years.  Here’s to 2018!

Top: Reformation (similar look on sale) / Jeans: H&M / Boots: Forever 21 (similar look) / Sunnies: ZeroUV / Necklace: Gorjana / Earrings: Sugarfix by Baublebar / Bag: Vintage Chanel / Lipstick: 100% Pure

Photographed by Laci Havens

BEST BEAUTY FINDS OF 2017

As a blogger, I am often gifted with tons of beauty products to try and use.  From skincare to haircare to makeup, there are just tons and tons of great products out there.  However, there were a few brands that just stood out after testing and have now become my daily go to staples.  The brands and products I’m about to recommend are NOT SPONSORED.  Yes, some of the products were gifted, but some were purchased by yours truly, and my reviews are 100% my honest opinion.  So here goes…my favorite beauty finds of 2017:

SKINCARE

Hands down, my favorite skincare line of 2017 is Dr. Dennis Gross, and specifically their Alpha Beta peels and C+ Collagen line.  If you have followed along on my InstaStories, then you would know that I’ve been using their Alpha Beta peels since the summer, and have raved about it ever since.  It’s the quickest and most effective 5 minute in-home peel you can buy.  Sephora runs a special of 5 bonus peels with the 30 treatments box.  I don’t use it daily as suggested, but every other day.  I feel like my skin just glows from the inside out.

Their C+ Collagen line was later introduced to me after I started using the peels, and I am OBSESSED with using the serum and deep cream every night.  I use to only use La Mer for my night cream, and did so for 10 years.  However, it became too costly, and I’ve been in search for a new night cream ever since.  The deep cream can be used in the AM and PM since it’s light enough to be worn during the day, but I like using it in conjunction with the serum, which is to be used once daily.

Frankly, for the quality and effectiveness of their products, I would expect Dr. Dennis Gross to be at a higher price point.  However, they’re still fairly new, and with so much competition out there, I can see why they have sustained at their current prices.  Don’t worry, I’m not complaining.  I’m just happy that I have found a skincare line that works and that I can afford.

HAIR CARE

Ever since I chopped off my hair this fall, I have noticed that I have to use so much more products in my hair in order for it to not look dead or limp.  From texturizing sprays to thickening hairsprays, I’ve been spritzing all kinds of stuff in my hair.  The two products that have made the cut are OUAI’s wave spray and texturizing hair spray.  They literally bring life into my hair.  I use the wave spray on my washed damp hair, blow dry, then spray in the texturizing hair spray to give it volume.  It works wonders.  I usually keep the hair style for a few days and just spray in more texturizing spray when need be.  Usually by day two my hair is good and ready for some curling action, and that’s when I bust out my T3 Micro wand.  It gives me the perfect loose wave, don’t care kinda look.

MAKEUP

I could pitch you a million products under the makeup category, but that defeats the purpose of this post.  There was just one makeup item that I really fell in love with this year, and that’s Stila’s Glitter and Glow Liquid Eyeshadow.  I love them in every color and finish.  They are the perfect enhancement to any eyeshadow look.  I thought they would be clunky and dry up sticky, but they are just the opposite.  They glide on smoothly when applied, and they dry naturally like a moisturizer going into the skin.  The glitter and metallic finish doesn’t irritate my eyes and I love the way they sparkle under the light.  I loved the first one I purchased so much that I got the eyeshadow set as well to test out all the other colors.  This would be a perfect addition for your NYE look.

 

There you have it.  My favorite beauty finds of this year.  I wish you all a safe and fun New Year’s celebration and I can’t wait to see y’all in 2018! Xo!

CHRISTMAS RECAP 2017

This Christmas season has been full of celebrations, gifts, food, friends and family.  I got to celebrate Sagittarius birthdays (TheLuxiLook & StripesCollide), an engagement (GlamaRosh), and births of new Kangs into the family, (congrats David and Kristine!).  I had fun photo collaborations with The LuxiLook, (as seen in these photos), shot by the wonderful Laci Havens.  I am very grateful for all the love I have in my family and I’m happy to share with you some of my favorite moments this Christmas.

GIFTS

Let’s start with the good, materialistic stuff.  I am a Taurus after all.  These are the wonderful and fabulous gifts I got this Christmas from my friends, family and bf:

DR. MARIO

My brother-in-law got my sister the old Nintendo system for Christmas and we spent the entire Christmas day and afternoon drinking about 4 bottles of red wine and playing Dr. Mario with my nephews.  It brought back so many fond memories of my childhood.  This game is ADDICTIVE!  I can’t wait to set it up at home and play it with my bf.  It’s just more fun playing it as an adult because now we get to add wine and alcohol into the mix.  Haha!

DAD

My parents currently live in Shanghai, China with my little brother, so any amount of time I get to spend with them is memorable.  My dad is about to turn 70 and has gotten to an age where everything is nostalgic for him.  I don’t blame him, because I started thinking about all of our childhood Christmas’ in Dallas.  My parents would throw the biggest Christmas party on the block, and all their friends and kids would come celebrate.

This Christmas, only my dad was able to make it back to Dallas.  I loved shopping with him at his favorite store, T. J. Maxx, and eating with him at his favorite restaurant, Olive Garden.  They might not be his actual favorite, but they were the places we went to as kids, and I think he likes remembering those moments.

NEPHEWS

My nephews and I have a Christmas tradition that we started 3 years ago.  I usually fly into Dallas a few days before Christmas.  I borrow my sister’s car, and I take the kids to Dave and Busters and Toys R Us.  The D&B portion is to celebrate their birthdays since I live in LA and am never able to attend their actual birthday parties.  Then I take them to Toys R Us, where they can each show me 5 toys that they would like for Christmas.  I then send them to the books sections, and I buy them a gift each from their selections.  I’m not the best Santa Claus, but at least it’s still somewhat of a surprise.

 

These little moments are what I treasure the most from my Christmas time spent at home with the family.  I hope each of you had a wonderful Christmas holiday, and that Santa brought you lots of goodies this season.  I have one more holiday post before the new year, so be sure to let me know what you’d like to read in 2018! Xoxo!


Dress (on me): Reformation (sold out | similar look) / Sunnies (on me): ZeroUV / Sunnies (on her): Quay Australia / Earrings (on me): Charming Charlie / Necklace (on me): Mejuri / Choker (on me): Mejuri / Socks (on me): H&M (sold out | similar look) / Heels (on me): Steve Madden

Photographed by Laci Havens

KEEP IT ON THE DOWN LOW

One of the hardest things for me to do during the holidays when it’s full of parties and dinner celebrations is to keep my weight down.  There are endless plates of desserts and sweets, lots of boozing and wining, and it’s just cold enough outside to where I don’t mind the extra layer of fat.  However, I made it a point this year to not only not gain weight, but also to keep my weight on the down low-end of the scale.  I am going to try and lose weight this holiday.

I can already feel your glares and sneers as I say that I want to lose weight.  No, I am not trying to promote an unhealthy weight or image.  Yes, I know that I “look fine”.  However,  I want to look more than fine.  My goal is to look the way I did two years ago when I first started blogging, (see EARTH FRIENDLY for reference).  I felt my best then.  I was working out a lot more: 5 to 6 days a week, and I wasn’t working in the service industry, so I wasn’t eating at odd hours of the evening.  I don’t have the time or the energy to do what I did then, so what options do I have to achieve my goal?

OPTION ONE: HOT YOGA

Yup, hot yoga is the answer to all my problems.  “What are you up to tonight?”  Hot yoga.  “Wanna go out for some drinks?” Hot yoga.  “Want to go workout?” Hot yoga.  As long as I answer with hot yoga, I can feel better about myself that day and the morning after.  My boyfriend doesn’t believe in toxins of the body, but I do, and I think sweating helps remove toxins from your body.  By choosing hot yoga over going out or having drinks, I automatically consume less calories, and lose a lot of water weight.  This is a win-win situation.

OPTION TWO: EAT AT NORMAL HOURS

I know there are studies that prove it doesn’t matter what time of the day you eat, but the amount of calories you consume.  However, I personally feel like I eat less when I have dinner at a normal dinner time (i.e. 6-8pm).  It’s hard for me to eat at these normal hours when I work at the restaurant.  I tend to eat when I get off work, which is 9-11pm.  Thus, another reason why I have scaled back the number of days I serve.

OPTION THREE: NO DRINKING AT HOME

 This by far is the hardest thing, but I’ve managed to get over the idea of having a glass of wine by myself at home.  (Trust me, you’ll drink plenty at the next holiday party event).  Of course it’s relaxing to come home from a long day of work and just have a glass of wine while you make dinner or have it with your dinner.  But that one glass usually turns into two, into another half, into “f*ck it, I might as well drink the whole bottle”.  90% of my pudge is from my diet, and my diet consists of a lot of wine.  By taking the extra wine-at-home out of my diet, I have seen a significant difference in my tummy.

OPTION FOUR: 7:30AM

A lot of you may already wake up this early, if not earlier, but 7:30am is early for me.  I don’t have kids, and I don’t have a 9-5 job that requires me to get up this early every weekday.  I do this voluntarily because it gets me up and out of bed and doing things.  My 4 part-time jobs keep me busy enough to where I need to be up this early in order to get things done, but it also gives me time to get my fancy coffee, post and engage a bit on Instagram, run errands (ie dropping off Poshmark packages at the post office), check emails, online shop, and go to a workout class.

POINT IS…

By implementing these four new things, I have already noticed a difference in my body.  I don’t own a scale so I have no idea how much I weigh, but I do know how I fit into my clothes and my clothes feel more relaxed.  I want to reiterate again that I don’t want to promote an unhealthy weight image, and this is just a personal choice that I’m sharing.  If keeping the weight off during the holidays is an issue for you, try one or more of these things and let me know how it works for you.  Just one more week til Xmas!  Good luck!

Coat: YFB On The Road / Bodysuit: Hot-As-Hell / Skirt: TopShop / Boots: Aerosoles / Sunnies: Ray-Ban / Necklace: Mejuri / Lipstick: 100% Pure

Photographed by Laci Havens

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