THE COMEBACK KID

Mercury was in full retrograde throughout the months of February and March.  Not sure if that’s accurate, but it sure felt like it in my books.  It was just one bad news after the other.  My theatrical agent of the last four years decided to drop me (via email), I lose my social media consulting account, (which was my main source of income), and my now ex-boyfriend decided that we should break up.  Oh, and my dog was diagnosed with some kind of liver disease.  It felt like everything I had worked hard for in LA was just crumbling down to nothing.  Don’t worry, this isn’t a sad story.  This is a comeback story.

The purpose of writing this blog post is to hopefully let you know that things could look real shitty at the moment, but always have faith and know that change is only a bad thing if you’re unwilling to accept it.  I’m an actress, living in LA, and I have been through my ups and downs with this town and this industry.  For every triumphant moment I’ve had, I can count three other moments that have left me feeling defeated.  This is the roller coaster ride I have come to accept in my life.  I have left my stable six-figure paying corporate job for this, and I don’t regret it for a single moment.

It would’ve been easy for me to feel sorry for myself, chop off my hair, eat a pound of ice cream and call my mom crying.  However, I had already chopped off my hair last year, and am actually in the process of growing it back out.   I don’t have much of a sweet tooth.  Plus, my mom lives in Shanghai, China so long distance calling can be a hassle with that 15 hour time zone difference.  Instead, I gave myself maybe a day to feel sorry for myself and then I decided to check myself.  You can’t control the situation, but you can control how you handle the situation.

Rather than crying over spilt milk, I decided to just look for a new theatrical agent.  I reached out to friends and acquaintances inquiring about local LA brands that may need social media assistance, and I decided to kiss a lover and a friend goodbye.  It’s now mid-April and I am happy to say that I have signed with a new theatrical agent, I am consulting for a new account, and I have tons of fun campaigns coming up for Kangthropologie.  Not to mention that Kenzie, my pup, is done taking her antibiotics and liver supplements, and should be on her way to a speedy recovery.

Don’t fight the ever changing currents of the ocean and just go with the flow.  Sounds cliché, right?  Well, I took that advice and life IS back to being busy with workouts, auditions, blogging, events, and basic hustling.  I’ve been shooting a ton of new looks, and I even took a day trip out to Joshua Tree with my blogging bestie, Amy of The Luxi Look.  So here are some of the festival looks for those of you headed out to Weekend Two of Coachella.  Have fun.  Wear sunscreen.  And make sure you ‘come back’ safely!

Xo, Linda

Dress: Flair The Label / Scarf: ASOS / Sunnies: Perverse / Earrings: Luv AJ / Boots: Forever 21

Top: Sage The Label / Shorts: Understated Leather (similar look) / Boots: Nasty Gal (similar look) / Sunnies: ZeroUV / Bag: Veggani (on sale) / Earrings: Luv AJ (on sale) / Choker: Luv AJ (similar look)

Top: I’m Your Gypsy / Pants: Sage The Label / Hat: Brixton / Sunnies: ZeroUV / Shoes: Free People / Backpack: Library LA / Necklace: Sugarfix by BaubleBar / Lariat: Luv AJ (sold out in gold | available in silver) Earrings: Luv AJ

Bikini Top: Beach Riot / Skort: Flair The Label / Sunnies: Illesteva / Sandals: Marc Fisher (similar look) / Bag: Urban Outfitters / Necklace: Sugarfix by BaubleBar / Lariat: Luv AJ (sold out in gold | available in silver) / Pendant Necklace: The Brave Collection / Earrings: Luv AJ

Photographed by Stefanie Meier

PILL POPPING: THE NECESSITY OF VITAMINS AND SUPPLEMENTS

 

The very bottom drawer of my nightstand contains about 10-15 bottles of vitamins and supplements, allergy pills and over the counter pain relievers.  TBH, I haven’t touched any of it for about a year.  I had the right intentions when I first purchased my huge bottle of Biotin supplements to help my hair and nail growth, but that intention died out quickly.

I workout regularly.  I don’t smoke.  I don’t dabble in recreational drugs, but I have my glasses of wine and cocktails here and there.  I’m a pescatarian, and have been for the past 11 years.  Overall, I would say I’m a very healthy person.  [Fair warning before you continue reading, I’m about to talk about some TMI issues regarding diet and bowel movement].  However, no matter how much kale, chia seeds or fiber I eat, I don’t always have a regular bowel movement.  There.  I said it.  I get constipation.  I don’t have stage fright or anything of that nature, but I would go for days without going #2.  This happens most often when I travel or consume a heavy amount of processed food, (ramen is my weakness).  I’ve just come to live with this issue of mine.

Then about two months ago, Care/of, an online vitamins and supplements provider that personalizes daily vitamin packs based on your dietary wants and needs, reached out to me to try out their service.  I read a few articles ( Man Repeller, Mind Body Green and Vogue) about their brand, and decided to give it a try.  It’s a free 30-day supply, why not?  So here’s my honest review of Care/of after taking their vitamins for 30 days:

Care/of Video Review Intro

The whole personalization of your daily vitamin packs is a very simple process.  I just went to their website and took a very brief survey that asked me simple questions about my lifestyle and diet.  From there it generated a list of suggested vitamins and supplements.  I decided to take all 6 of the vitamins it suggested for me: probiotic blend, Astaxanthin, Vitamin D, Vitamin B12, Ashwagandha and iron.  They are honest and open about what each vitamin and supplement is used for and where they are supplied from.  Details are sent to you in a booklet when you receive your 30 day supply.

The package is pretty with your name written on the front of every pack.  Not sure if it was intentional, but the color scheme of my 6 vitamins and supplements were also aesthetically pleasing.  I took my first daily pack the day it came in the mail (March 5, 2018), and the probiotic blend went into effect by the next day.  I had regular bowel movements for almost 3 weeks straight.  The permanent stomach pooch I had was no longer permanent.  I just needed to go poo.

I’m not about the results of the other supplements because I don’t know how to judge Vitamin D or B12 without doing some blood work?  Astaxanthin supports healthy skin, but I don’t know if my skin is healthier because I have pretty healthy skin to begin with.  I know I lack in iron because I’m never able to donate blood because of my low iron count.  Long story short, the only result I could confirm from my 30 days is the probiotic blend supplement.  However, my body may have grown accustomed to this supplement because shortly before my supply ended I started having constipation again.

My personalized daily vitamin pack would cost me $37/month.  That’s about $1/day, which in my case, I think it’s worth the cost.  I have a drawer of supplements (probably now expired) that I haven’t touched in over a year.  Not sure if it’s the packaging or the fact that I have the Care/of box laying on my kitchen counter, but this has reminded me to be more cognizant of my supplemental intake.

I am definitely going to reach out to them to inquire about the probiotic issue before I reorder, but odds are I’m going to reorder.  If you’re forgetful or lazy like me when it comes to taking your vitamins, then this may be your solution.  This post wasn’t sponsored, but I was gifted the month supply, so if you did want to try it out use code KANG25 to receive 25% off your first months supply.  Have a happy and healthy week my friends!

Top: Tiger Mist / Pant: Tiger Mist / Sunnies: Gentle Monster / Sneakers: Superga / Necklace: Luv AJ / Earrings: Luv AJ

Photographed by Stefanie Meier

‘PHYSICAL’ THERAPY: HOW I USE WORKOUTS TO REDUCE STRESS

To say that this past month has been trying is an understatement.  I am SO glad that February is behind us, and I’m praying to baby Jesus that March will be smoother sailing.  In these trying times, I need some physical therapy, and I’m not talking about the movement rehabilitation treatment kind.  The kind of ‘physical’ therapy that I’m talking about is literal.

There’s been lots of changes happening in my life this past month and my mind is tirelessly thinking of how I can solve each problem.  I start to lose a lot of sleep, (only resting 3-4 hours/night), and I’m someone who loves her 8 hours of beauty rest.  I pretty much look as haggard as it gets in about a week.  So, to counter my stress level, my ‘physical’ therapy treatment has been to workout as much as possible to the point where I’m too tired to think and I eventually fall asleep.  Not sure if this works for everyone, but so far it has done well for me.

In the past I would lean towards drinking excessively, going out with friends and partying, or use shop therapy and max out my credit cards.  I did that for probably the better part of my early 20s.  I’m not that irresponsible kid anymore, and I have learned to take my stress out where it benefits my mind and my body.

Here’s the breakdown of my weekly classes: I normally do at least 2-3 HIIT classes that involve a lot of cardio.  I can’t run long distances anymore because my knee gave out after my last marathon, so it’s all sprints on treadmill for me now.  I even out the cardio with 2-3 hot yoga or hot pilates classes.  Though these classes can be intense as well, the heated rooms help me sweat, which mellows me out more.

On a completely different note, I’ve discovered my new favorite instructor who teaches at both Aura Yoga and Hot Pilates at Sunset Plaza, and her name is Maria Leguizamon.  She’s this tiny hot Colombian badass instructor that will whoop your body into great shape.  This isn’t a plug.  I just really love her classes.

Working out may not be for everyone, so I recommend taking meditation classes or going to an infrared sauna.  I recently checked out HotBox in DTLA, and found the experience quite invigorating.  It was kind of expensive in the sense that you’re spending $45 to sit 45 mins in a heated box with infrared lights, but if you don’t have access to a heated sauna, this might be your best bet for that stress reducing day.  There are other places like Sweattheory in Hollywood that offers $35 per session, or Shapehouse in Larchmont Village that’s $50 per session but you get your own infrared bed.  I’m actually curious to check out Shapehouse to see if there’s a difference between the infrared bed and the infrared box that I tried at HotBox.

I’m trying to stay positive about these changes because I know all things must change in order for me to grow.  My permanent I-love-to-eat-carbs pooch, (see CARB ME UP), has already reduced in size, so maybe this stress thing isn’t all bad news.  See, I’m already doing better.  LOL!

Bra: Montiel / Legging: Lilybod / Scrunchie: Forever 21 / Sneakers: Nike / Necklace: Sugarfix by BaubleBar

Photographed by Stefanie Meier

LONG GONE

I was going through my computer looking at my photos, and noticed this folder of pics from June last year that I NEVER posted.  What a stinking waste of great pics!  I don’t care if they’re dated.  I like them, and I feel like sharing them with you.  This was shot just a couple of months before I lopped off like 8 inches of my beautiful long hair.  The days of dreading to wash my hair because of how long it takes to wash, blow dry, and curl my ridiculously long hair are ‘long gone’.

Do I have regrets? Yes, especially looking at these pics.  But I know that my hair will eventually grow back, and I’ll have the same boring long hairstyle all over again.  (One of the main reasons I decided to cut my hair was because I had the same hairstyle for almost 15 years).

There are other things in my life that draws the same kind of emotion, like ex-boyfriends or clothes for instance.  You know that you want a change and that you need to get rid of the old in order to make room for the potentially new.  However, once you get rid of it, you can’t help but miss it.  You have sleepless nights wondering if you made the right choice.  You go back and reminisce by looking at old pictures, (haha!).  That is, until the new stuff comes along.  A new leather jacket, that fresh pair of platform heels or that bubbly feeling when you first kiss.

It’s always hard to let go of something you’ve had for a long time.  There are memories and emotions attached to that person or thing, but always remember that there’s a reason why you wanted to get rid of it in the first place.  It either no longer fits on your body or in your life.  I don’t know how this post just went from chopping off my hair to a self-help guide, but I personally have a hard time letting go of stuff.  I’m not a hoarder, but I have clothes hanging on top of clothes in my closet.  I always think that it’s a waste to let go of something I’ve either barely worn or forgotten about.  But that’s exactly the reason why I should sell or donate it.  If it’s that forgettable or unwearable, then odds are it’ll continue to be forgettable and unwearable.

So, to loop this all back, the things that you truly want or love will either grow back (my hair) or reappear so you can post on your blog (my pictures).  The things that are not memorable will need to be cleared out.  Spring is just around the corner, and there’s no better time for a spring cleaning than now.  Happy Tuesday!


Romper: Flair The Label (similar look) / Bag: Coach / Shoes: Free People (similar look) / Ring: Free People (similar look)

Photos by Mire Yang

KEEP IT ON THE DOWN LOW

One of the hardest things for me to do during the holidays when it’s full of parties and dinner celebrations is to keep my weight down.  There are endless plates of desserts and sweets, lots of boozing and wining, and it’s just cold enough outside to where I don’t mind the extra layer of fat.  However, I made it a point this year to not only not gain weight, but also to keep my weight on the down low-end of the scale.  I am going to try and lose weight this holiday.

I can already feel your glares and sneers as I say that I want to lose weight.  No, I am not trying to promote an unhealthy weight or image.  Yes, I know that I “look fine”.  However,  I want to look more than fine.  My goal is to look the way I did two years ago when I first started blogging, (see EARTH FRIENDLY for reference).  I felt my best then.  I was working out a lot more: 5 to 6 days a week, and I wasn’t working in the service industry, so I wasn’t eating at odd hours of the evening.  I don’t have the time or the energy to do what I did then, so what options do I have to achieve my goal?

OPTION ONE: HOT YOGA

Yup, hot yoga is the answer to all my problems.  “What are you up to tonight?”  Hot yoga.  “Wanna go out for some drinks?” Hot yoga.  “Want to go workout?” Hot yoga.  As long as I answer with hot yoga, I can feel better about myself that day and the morning after.  My boyfriend doesn’t believe in toxins of the body, but I do, and I think sweating helps remove toxins from your body.  By choosing hot yoga over going out or having drinks, I automatically consume less calories, and lose a lot of water weight.  This is a win-win situation.

OPTION TWO: EAT AT NORMAL HOURS

I know there are studies that prove it doesn’t matter what time of the day you eat, but the amount of calories you consume.  However, I personally feel like I eat less when I have dinner at a normal dinner time (i.e. 6-8pm).  It’s hard for me to eat at these normal hours when I work at the restaurant.  I tend to eat when I get off work, which is 9-11pm.  Thus, another reason why I have scaled back the number of days I serve.

OPTION THREE: NO DRINKING AT HOME

 This by far is the hardest thing, but I’ve managed to get over the idea of having a glass of wine by myself at home.  (Trust me, you’ll drink plenty at the next holiday party event).  Of course it’s relaxing to come home from a long day of work and just have a glass of wine while you make dinner or have it with your dinner.  But that one glass usually turns into two, into another half, into “f*ck it, I might as well drink the whole bottle”.  90% of my pudge is from my diet, and my diet consists of a lot of wine.  By taking the extra wine-at-home out of my diet, I have seen a significant difference in my tummy.

OPTION FOUR: 7:30AM

A lot of you may already wake up this early, if not earlier, but 7:30am is early for me.  I don’t have kids, and I don’t have a 9-5 job that requires me to get up this early every weekday.  I do this voluntarily because it gets me up and out of bed and doing things.  My 4 part-time jobs keep me busy enough to where I need to be up this early in order to get things done, but it also gives me time to get my fancy coffee, post and engage a bit on Instagram, run errands (ie dropping off Poshmark packages at the post office), check emails, online shop, and go to a workout class.

POINT IS…

By implementing these four new things, I have already noticed a difference in my body.  I don’t own a scale so I have no idea how much I weigh, but I do know how I fit into my clothes and my clothes feel more relaxed.  I want to reiterate again that I don’t want to promote an unhealthy weight image, and this is just a personal choice that I’m sharing.  If keeping the weight off during the holidays is an issue for you, try one or more of these things and let me know how it works for you.  Just one more week til Xmas!  Good luck!

Coat: YFB On The Road / Bodysuit: Hot-As-Hell / Skirt: TopShop / Boots: Aerosoles / Sunnies: Ray-Ban / Necklace: Mejuri / Lipstick: 100% Pure

Photographed by Laci Havens

CHANGES

I just got out of a 50 minute massage at The Now.  My mind is clear and calm, and I feel like I can breathe for the first time in two weeks.  I have made some difficult decisions in my life that I’m starting to slowly implement, and it has already made my life much simpler and happier.  I wanted to share these personal life choices with you in hopes that you will consider what changes you may need in your life.  Especially with the new year abound, maybe now is the best time for you to start thinking of your new year resolutions.

Career Change

I have mentioned in previous posts that I’m juggling between 4 (sometimes 4.5) part-time jobs.  They come and go in terms of their own busy season, but the past two months have been nightmarishly busy with all 4 jobs.  Nothing in particular that would make one want to jump off a building, but enough to make one consider quitting.  I’m just spread too thin, and can’t focus on any one job.

I have decided that the server job is the one I have to let go.  For those of you who have never served, it is quite tedious.  Not the bussing of the tables or memorizing the menu, but dealing with the people itself.  People can be quite the pain when they want gluten-free, cilantro-free, onion-free or any other dietary restriction at a busy restaurant.  I’m a pescatarian.  I know what a pain I can be.  Point is, I am letting go of the one job that I know I can make considerable cash per shift.  As an actress and blogger, I can’t guarantee when I’ll get paid, but as a server, I know exactly how much I’m going home with each night.  This was a heavy decision to make, but I think freeing up my evenings will make my other jobs more enjoyable during the day.

Lifestyle Change

I don’t have much free time working 4 PT jobs, so when I do have time off, I’d like to make the most of it with eating out and having wine…and lots of it.  I decided to scale back on my shifts at my server job last week, and noticed that my lifestyle habits stayed the same. I still wanted to go out for dinner and drinks, but now with half the cash income.  Thank goodness a good girlfriend suggested that we go to hot yoga instead.  I’m so glad I took her suggestion.  I felt 10x better after class, and I went home and made myself a salad.  I didn’t have the hangover I would have the next day, and I woke up early and refreshed for my day jobs.  It was just a slight change, but that decision made all the difference.  SO, my recommendation is this: the next time you decide to take your work stress out on a bottle of wine, to instead try going to a workout class or even just yoga.

Love Change

I haven’t been in a long term, serious relationship in a VERY LONG time, (since 2007 to be exact), so now that I am in a committed relationship of 9 months I feel like a fish out of water.  I know how to go on dates, and I know how to date short term.  What I forgot was the stuff that comes with dating long term (ie. family issues, living situation, thoughts on how to raise a family).  I have to now train myself to be okay with caring for someone without expecting anything in return.  I have been just one for so long, and I don’t know how to not be selfish.  This will be a work in progress, but the more I care for him than myself, the happier I am.

Appearance Change

As you all know, I decided to chop off my beautiful, long hair back in August.  I chopped it off even further in October.  I am now reminiscing my long hair.  Most of my friends have long hair, but I do see that I stand out more as an actress with short hair, (at least that’s what my agents are telling me).  I’m trying to tell myself that hair grows back, that Kim K. also chopped off her hair, and that I will book more jobs with this new look.  However, there’s this pit feeling inside that says a lob is better than a bob.  I’ll probably grow my hair to shoulder length as a compromise.

Point from this is that don’t let others tell you how you should look.  As an actress, I’m always judging myself and comparing myself to other actresses.  Why did they get booked and I didn’t?  Was it my hair?  Was it this?  Was it that?  I have to remind myself daily to stop these thoughts.  That the only thing I can control is my performance.  Chopping off my hair did separate me slightly from the crowd, but my ability to act will dictate whether or not I do well.  So focus on your strengths and talents, and don’t let something like the length of your hair hold you back.

Happy holidays everyone!  My next post will show you some of the gifts I’m giving to my friends and family for Christmas, and hopefully that will give you some ideas for your own holiday shopping.  Thanks for reading!

Dress: Hot-As-Hell / Sunglasses: zeroUV (they’re only $10!) / Purse: Chanel / Shoes: Steve Madden

Photographed by Laci Havens

INDECENT EXPOSURE

Last month when I attended my brother’s wedding in Shanghai, my mother repeatedly, (and I use this adjective with the strongest sense), requested that I start dressing more conservatively.  I’m not sure if it’s a cultural difference or a styling discrepancy, but my mother HATES it when I don’t wear a bra.  I’m not exposing myself in public per se, but I would be lying if I said you wouldn’t see a nip or two when it gets cold.  So yes, ladies and gentlemen, this is our topic of discussion today.  Not so much a bra versus no bra mentality, but whether the SoCal show-more-skin sense of fashion works outside of…well, SoCal.

I have no qualms with women, (or men), that like to show of their bodies.  I Iive in Los Angeles.  This is the mecca of hot bods.  I’m not one to judge because I like wearing low cut back tops/bodysuits with no bra.  I like wearing cute high-waist underwear underneath a see-thru dress, (as exhibited in my photos).  But if I were to take this fashion to Dallas, Atlanta, or Chicago, would I be stoned by the public?

Perhaps not to that extreme, but I would definitely get a some glancing and glaring looks.  So how does one wear SoCal fashion in other parts of the US where it may be more conservative without losing your sense of style?

Personally, I think sexy trends can be taken in dosages, and it doesn’t have to be one extreme or the other.  It all depends on your surroundings: the people you’re hanging out with and the location setting you’re at.  You can always layer your bodysuit with a jacket or save that see-thru dress for a pool party.  However, at the end of the day, it’s all about confidence.  Regardless of your where you’re at in the world, if you wear something sexy or shows off skin, people WILL look.  It’s up to you to decide whether or not you like that kind of attention.  If you want it, flaunt it.

I know for a fact that I dress and style differently when I go home to Dallas.  I start thinking J. Crew and colorful sweaters.  With all this said, I would really like to hear from those of you that live, (not from), in middle America.  How do you style your For Love and Lemons or Blue Life pieces?  Do you wear low back tops with or without a bra?  Let me know because I’m actually really curious!  Thanks for reading and I hope everyone has a safe and fun 4th of July!  Happy Birthday America!   

Dress: Hot-As-Hell / Flip Flops: Havaianas / Sunglasses: RAEN (featured in The Zoe Report Summer 2017 Box of Style) / Necklace: Adore Jewelry / Necklace: The Brave Collection (featured in The Zoe Report Summer 2017 Box of Style)

Photographed by Laci Havens

BUSY AF

Happy Friday everyone!  Wow, it has been a good minute since I last did a blog post.  My bad!  I didn’t mean to neglect my blog, but I have been busy AF this past month.  First it was my birthday, then the trip to Tulum, Mexico, and now I’m headed to Shanghai, China tomorrow for another two weeks!

Enough of my excuses.  I wanted to write this post to 1) let y’all know that I’m alive and still here, 2) post these pretty pictures that are too good to be left on just my hard drive, and 3) talk about the juggling of four part-time jobs.  Yes, I said FOUR.  I’ve mentioned in the past that I’m an actress, but I’m also a social media consultant, a fashion/lifestyle blogger, AND a server at a WeHo restaurant.  I know it’s not as glamorous as it sounds now that I’ve bursted the bubble of a LA-blogger, but we all have to make ends meet.  And being a server helps me do just that…make ends meet.

So, while other bloggers who have day jobs get to go home and type up a blog post or grab a drink and chat it up at some new product launch event, I get to go from my day job(s) to my night job.  This makes social media engagements and dating quite hard because I have such little time to do everything that usually requires a full-time job dedication.

Here’s how I try to time manage my life so that I can make sure I still have the time to work on Kangthropologie and keep my sanity:

HAVE YOUR “WEEKEND”

While most people would think weekends pertain to Saturdays and Sundays, my weekend starts on Sunday.  I make sure that I give myself at least two days per week to not do “work” work.  That means no consulting, no acting classes, no server shifts, nada.  (Disclaimer: obviously I make exceptions if it’s an audition or a shoot since that’s priority numero uno).  I make Sundays my date day and Mondays my photoshoot day.  Since I don’t shoot every week, the Mondays I have off are time spent watching Netflix, Kdrama and hanging out in my PJs all day.

HAVE A “LIFE”

It’s really hard to have fun and actually enjoy life when you’re too busy working all four jobs from day to night, which is why I have decided to scale back on my social media posts and engagements in order to give myself time to actually enjoy what I’m blogging about.

As I just mentioned, I recently went to Tulum and had the most incredible time!  (Blog post about my Tulum trip is coming up next).  We could have gone and just shot great content all day, but then we would have missed out on the beauty and fun there is to have there.  While I normally post once a day on Instagram, I decided that I didn’t want to be worrying about engagement and only posted every other day.  I’m not recommending this to any influencers out there who are taking this more seriously than I am; however, there’s only 24 hours in a day and I don’t have any assistance or interns for help, so something has got to give.  In this particular case, I decided to scale back on social media engagements and posts.

MAKE EVERY HOUR COUNT

For those of you out there that already have a significant other, congrats.  Kiss your man/woman and thank them for sticking by your side.  For me, it’s really hard to date when you don’t even have time to call your own mother.  REALLY hard.  But I try to make time by making every hour count.  Sundays are our days to hangout, but if I’m out of town or have previous plans then we only have the few hours during the week that we can talk on the phone or meet up for a drink.  If your love life is a priority, then make sure you make time for it.

DON’T TAKE IT TOO SERIOUSLY

I know I say this too lightly and could offend a lot of bloggers, brands, and content creators out there that do this full-time, but, don’t take social media too seriously.  It’s a great creative outlet, and people can make some serious dough doing this well.  But know that this is all digital and stored up in cyberspace.  Your life should not be fully dependent on how many likes, followers and views you get.  Yes, work hard, build relationships with brands, and create beautiful, original content, but please make sure you stop and smell the flowers while you’re doing it.  Have a drink (or two) at that social media industry event, but be sure to meet some great people and don’t make it all about posting that perfect selfie.

I’ll be MIA again for the next couple of weeks due to internet restrictions in China, but I’ll be sure to sneak onto VPN here and there and post some fabulous pics.  My next post will be talking about what to really expect when you travel to Tulum, Mexico.  Have a great Memorial Weekend everyone!

Top: ZARA / Denim: Levi’s / Sunglasses: My own (similar look) / Shoes: EMU Australia / Bag: ZARA / Watch: Daniel Wellington / Crescent Necklace: Gorjana / Necklace: Gorjana

Photographed by Mire Yang

QUICK TO JUDGE

One of the first things I will openly admit is how judgmental I am.  I’m not bragging.  This isn’t exactly a great quality to have, but it is what it is.  I’m quick to judge a person within the first 5 minutes of our conversation.  This could easily explain why I only have a handful of people I call “friends”, and everyone else just comes and goes.

It wasn’t until a recent situation in my life that caused me to really start thinking about how I am perceived, and how I am judged by people.  I once took an acting class where I had to turn my back to my class as my fellow actors and classmates wrote down words they think described who I was based on just the introduction line, “Hi, my name is…”.  I often get words like: authoritative, professional, perky, cute, strong, smart.  Are these words correct?  Can I be summed up by just a few adjectives?

This situation must really bother me, or else, why would it be on my mind?  Why else would it affect me so much to where I felt the need to blog about it.  I’ve come to realize that my own insecurities about my life choices have caused me to feel the need to impress and to prove to people that I’m not a “dumb dumb”.  Yes, I’m an actress/blogger, but I don’t want these titles to define me.  I feel the need to say I’m a Georgia Tech grad who chose to pursue the career of an entertainer, but does that change the fact that I’m still currently an actress and blogger?  No.

I guess what I’m trying to get at is that we all have insecurities about ourselves.  We will always feel the need to put forth our best side and impress people we know and don’t know.  It’s okay to feel this way, but don’t ever let those insecurities change who you are.  Be happy with who you are, where you are, and how you are.  If you’re not happy with yourself, no one else will be either.  I know this sounds so cliché, but my hope is that by me sharing some of my own personal struggles that it will somehow help you in your own daily life.  Sending y’all love and light, xoxo!

Cactus Necklace: You.nic Shop / Lariat: You.nic Shop / Rings: Gorjana

Dress: ZARA / Sunglasses: My own (similar look) / Bag: Vintage Chanel / Shoes: ZARA (sold out | similar look)

Photographed by Laci Havens

ONE BAD EXPERIENCE

I’m typing up this blog post while I lay half dead in bed from a very bad food poisoning experience I had yesterday.  The worst part is that it happened in one of my favorite restaurants, ever.  It’s a very popular vegan/vegetarian restaurant in Venice, and I’m sure I’ll be back to dine after a few months of forgiveness.  I’m just so sad that this one bad experience has left me wondering about my diet and my consumption of food in restaurants.

I’ve been a pescatarian for 9 years and going.  I love my occasional raw seafood, and most of my protein comes from eggs and beans.  I had dined out at a well-known, quality seafood restaurant in Santa Monica the evening before, and then ordered a breakfast burrito for lunch the next day at said vegetarian restaurant.  I knew something was off with the eggs the moment I bit into the second half of my breakfast burrito.  However, the sickness and nausea came only 2 hours after my consumption.

I decided to place a courtesy phone call to the manager at the vegetarian restaurant to let them know that I was feeling sick and had been throwing up the past few hours, and perhaps they should check the quality of their eggs.  He informed me that food born illnesses don’t usually occur til 12-24 hours after consumption.  This would mean that I may have gotten sick at the seafood restaurant.  Raw seafood…more suspicious than cooked eggs, right?  But I had shared items with my friends that were dining with me at the seafood restaurant and none of them had gotten sick.  Just me.

Regardless of where I had gotten my food poisoning, the point is that I did, and I was completely out for the count yesterday.  My friends were from out of town and I had to cancel my plans with them the rest of the day because I couldn’t even stand up.  I had dined at two very popular and well-known restaurants and this unfortunate event still occurred.  Has this ever happened to any of you?  And if so, have you gone back to that same restaurant?  I’d like to hear about your experiences.

Denim: Vintage Liz Claiborne (similar look) / Sunglasses: Oliver Peoples (sold out | similar look)  / Top: A.L.C. / Belt: Coach / Coat: MinkPink / Shoes: Forever 21 (sold out | similar look)

Photographed by Larry Wong