LONG GONE

I was going through my computer looking at my photos, and noticed this folder of pics from June last year that I NEVER posted.  What a stinking waste of great pics!  I don’t care if they’re dated.  I like them, and I feel like sharing them with you.  This was shot just a couple of months before I lopped off like 8 inches of my beautiful long hair.  The days of dreading to wash my hair because of how long it takes to wash, blow dry, and curl my ridiculously long hair are ‘long gone’.

Do I have regrets? Yes, especially looking at these pics.  But I know that my hair will eventually grow back, and I’ll have the same boring long hairstyle all over again.  (One of the main reasons I decided to cut my hair was because I had the same hairstyle for almost 15 years).

There are other things in my life that draws the same kind of emotion, like ex-boyfriends or clothes for instance.  You know that you want a change and that you need to get rid of the old in order to make room for the potentially new.  However, once you get rid of it, you can’t help but miss it.  You have sleepless nights wondering if you made the right choice.  You go back and reminisce by looking at old pictures, (haha!).  That is, until the new stuff comes along.  A new leather jacket, that fresh pair of platform heels or that bubbly feeling when you first kiss.

It’s always hard to let go of something you’ve had for a long time.  There are memories and emotions attached to that person or thing, but always remember that there’s a reason why you wanted to get rid of it in the first place.  It either no longer fits on your body or in your life.  I don’t know how this post just went from chopping off my hair to a self-help guide, but I personally have a hard time letting go of stuff.  I’m not a hoarder, but I have clothes hanging on top of clothes in my closet.  I always think that it’s a waste to let go of something I’ve either barely worn or forgotten about.  But that’s exactly the reason why I should sell or donate it.  If it’s that forgettable or unwearable, then odds are it’ll continue to be forgettable and unwearable.

So, to loop this all back, the things that you truly want or love will either grow back (my hair) or reappear so you can post on your blog (my pictures).  The things that are not memorable will need to be cleared out.  Spring is just around the corner, and there’s no better time for a spring cleaning than now.  Happy Tuesday!


Romper: Flair The Label (similar look) / Bag: Coach / Shoes: Free People (similar look) / Ring: Free People (similar look)

Photos by Mire Yang

KEEP IT ON THE DOWN LOW

One of the hardest things for me to do during the holidays when it’s full of parties and dinner celebrations is to keep my weight down.  There are endless plates of desserts and sweets, lots of boozing and wining, and it’s just cold enough outside to where I don’t mind the extra layer of fat.  However, I made it a point this year to not only not gain weight, but also to keep my weight on the down low-end of the scale.  I am going to try and lose weight this holiday.

I can already feel your glares and sneers as I say that I want to lose weight.  No, I am not trying to promote an unhealthy weight or image.  Yes, I know that I “look fine”.  However,  I want to look more than fine.  My goal is to look the way I did two years ago when I first started blogging, (see EARTH FRIENDLY for reference).  I felt my best then.  I was working out a lot more: 5 to 6 days a week, and I wasn’t working in the service industry, so I wasn’t eating at odd hours of the evening.  I don’t have the time or the energy to do what I did then, so what options do I have to achieve my goal?

OPTION ONE: HOT YOGA

Yup, hot yoga is the answer to all my problems.  “What are you up to tonight?”  Hot yoga.  “Wanna go out for some drinks?” Hot yoga.  “Want to go workout?” Hot yoga.  As long as I answer with hot yoga, I can feel better about myself that day and the morning after.  My boyfriend doesn’t believe in toxins of the body, but I do, and I think sweating helps remove toxins from your body.  By choosing hot yoga over going out or having drinks, I automatically consume less calories, and lose a lot of water weight.  This is a win-win situation.

OPTION TWO: EAT AT NORMAL HOURS

I know there are studies that prove it doesn’t matter what time of the day you eat, but the amount of calories you consume.  However, I personally feel like I eat less when I have dinner at a normal dinner time (i.e. 6-8pm).  It’s hard for me to eat at these normal hours when I work at the restaurant.  I tend to eat when I get off work, which is 9-11pm.  Thus, another reason why I have scaled back the number of days I serve.

OPTION THREE: NO DRINKING AT HOME

 This by far is the hardest thing, but I’ve managed to get over the idea of having a glass of wine by myself at home.  (Trust me, you’ll drink plenty at the next holiday party event).  Of course it’s relaxing to come home from a long day of work and just have a glass of wine while you make dinner or have it with your dinner.  But that one glass usually turns into two, into another half, into “f*ck it, I might as well drink the whole bottle”.  90% of my pudge is from my diet, and my diet consists of a lot of wine.  By taking the extra wine-at-home out of my diet, I have seen a significant difference in my tummy.

OPTION FOUR: 7:30AM

A lot of you may already wake up this early, if not earlier, but 7:30am is early for me.  I don’t have kids, and I don’t have a 9-5 job that requires me to get up this early every weekday.  I do this voluntarily because it gets me up and out of bed and doing things.  My 4 part-time jobs keep me busy enough to where I need to be up this early in order to get things done, but it also gives me time to get my fancy coffee, post and engage a bit on Instagram, run errands (ie dropping off Poshmark packages at the post office), check emails, online shop, and go to a workout class.

POINT IS…

By implementing these four new things, I have already noticed a difference in my body.  I don’t own a scale so I have no idea how much I weigh, but I do know how I fit into my clothes and my clothes feel more relaxed.  I want to reiterate again that I don’t want to promote an unhealthy weight image, and this is just a personal choice that I’m sharing.  If keeping the weight off during the holidays is an issue for you, try one or more of these things and let me know how it works for you.  Just one more week til Xmas!  Good luck!

Coat: YFB On The Road / Bodysuit: Hot-As-Hell / Skirt: TopShop / Boots: Aerosoles / Sunnies: Ray-Ban / Necklace: Mejuri / Lipstick: 100% Pure

Photographed by Laci Havens

CHANGES

I just got out of a 50 minute massage at The Now.  My mind is clear and calm, and I feel like I can breathe for the first time in two weeks.  I have made some difficult decisions in my life that I’m starting to slowly implement, and it has already made my life much simpler and happier.  I wanted to share these personal life choices with you in hopes that you will consider what changes you may need in your life.  Especially with the new year abound, maybe now is the best time for you to start thinking of your new year resolutions.

Career Change

I have mentioned in previous posts that I’m juggling between 4 (sometimes 4.5) part-time jobs.  They come and go in terms of their own busy season, but the past two months have been nightmarishly busy with all 4 jobs.  Nothing in particular that would make one want to jump off a building, but enough to make one consider quitting.  I’m just spread too thin, and can’t focus on any one job.

I have decided that the server job is the one I have to let go.  For those of you who have never served, it is quite tedious.  Not the bussing of the tables or memorizing the menu, but dealing with the people itself.  People can be quite the pain when they want gluten-free, cilantro-free, onion-free or any other dietary restriction at a busy restaurant.  I’m a pescatarian.  I know what a pain I can be.  Point is, I am letting go of the one job that I know I can make considerable cash per shift.  As an actress and blogger, I can’t guarantee when I’ll get paid, but as a server, I know exactly how much I’m going home with each night.  This was a heavy decision to make, but I think freeing up my evenings will make my other jobs more enjoyable during the day.

Lifestyle Change

I don’t have much free time working 4 PT jobs, so when I do have time off, I’d like to make the most of it with eating out and having wine…and lots of it.  I decided to scale back on my shifts at my server job last week, and noticed that my lifestyle habits stayed the same. I still wanted to go out for dinner and drinks, but now with half the cash income.  Thank goodness a good girlfriend suggested that we go to hot yoga instead.  I’m so glad I took her suggestion.  I felt 10x better after class, and I went home and made myself a salad.  I didn’t have the hangover I would have the next day, and I woke up early and refreshed for my day jobs.  It was just a slight change, but that decision made all the difference.  SO, my recommendation is this: the next time you decide to take your work stress out on a bottle of wine, to instead try going to a workout class or even just yoga.

Love Change

I haven’t been in a long term, serious relationship in a VERY LONG time, (since 2007 to be exact), so now that I am in a committed relationship of 9 months I feel like a fish out of water.  I know how to go on dates, and I know how to date short term.  What I forgot was the stuff that comes with dating long term (ie. family issues, living situation, thoughts on how to raise a family).  I have to now train myself to be okay with caring for someone without expecting anything in return.  I have been just one for so long, and I don’t know how to not be selfish.  This will be a work in progress, but the more I care for him than myself, the happier I am.

Appearance Change

As you all know, I decided to chop off my beautiful, long hair back in August.  I chopped it off even further in October.  I am now reminiscing my long hair.  Most of my friends have long hair, but I do see that I stand out more as an actress with short hair, (at least that’s what my agents are telling me).  I’m trying to tell myself that hair grows back, that Kim K. also chopped off her hair, and that I will book more jobs with this new look.  However, there’s this pit feeling inside that says a lob is better than a bob.  I’ll probably grow my hair to shoulder length as a compromise.

Point from this is that don’t let others tell you how you should look.  As an actress, I’m always judging myself and comparing myself to other actresses.  Why did they get booked and I didn’t?  Was it my hair?  Was it this?  Was it that?  I have to remind myself daily to stop these thoughts.  That the only thing I can control is my performance.  Chopping off my hair did separate me slightly from the crowd, but my ability to act will dictate whether or not I do well.  So focus on your strengths and talents, and don’t let something like the length of your hair hold you back.

Happy holidays everyone!  My next post will show you some of the gifts I’m giving to my friends and family for Christmas, and hopefully that will give you some ideas for your own holiday shopping.  Thanks for reading!

Dress: Hot-As-Hell / Sunglasses: zeroUV (they’re only $10!) / Purse: Chanel / Shoes: Steve Madden

Photographed by Laci Havens

INDECENT EXPOSURE

Last month when I attended my brother’s wedding in Shanghai, my mother repeatedly, (and I use this adjective with the strongest sense), requested that I start dressing more conservatively.  I’m not sure if it’s a cultural difference or a styling discrepancy, but my mother HATES it when I don’t wear a bra.  I’m not exposing myself in public per se, but I would be lying if I said you wouldn’t see a nip or two when it gets cold.  So yes, ladies and gentlemen, this is our topic of discussion today.  Not so much a bra versus no bra mentality, but whether the SoCal show-more-skin sense of fashion works outside of…well, SoCal.

I have no qualms with women, (or men), that like to show of their bodies.  I Iive in Los Angeles.  This is the mecca of hot bods.  I’m not one to judge because I like wearing low cut back tops/bodysuits with no bra.  I like wearing cute high-waist underwear underneath a see-thru dress, (as exhibited in my photos).  But if I were to take this fashion to Dallas, Atlanta, or Chicago, would I be stoned by the public?

Perhaps not to that extreme, but I would definitely get a some glancing and glaring looks.  So how does one wear SoCal fashion in other parts of the US where it may be more conservative without losing your sense of style?

Personally, I think sexy trends can be taken in dosages, and it doesn’t have to be one extreme or the other.  It all depends on your surroundings: the people you’re hanging out with and the location setting you’re at.  You can always layer your bodysuit with a jacket or save that see-thru dress for a pool party.  However, at the end of the day, it’s all about confidence.  Regardless of your where you’re at in the world, if you wear something sexy or shows off skin, people WILL look.  It’s up to you to decide whether or not you like that kind of attention.  If you want it, flaunt it.

I know for a fact that I dress and style differently when I go home to Dallas.  I start thinking J. Crew and colorful sweaters.  With all this said, I would really like to hear from those of you that live, (not from), in middle America.  How do you style your For Love and Lemons or Blue Life pieces?  Do you wear low back tops with or without a bra?  Let me know because I’m actually really curious!  Thanks for reading and I hope everyone has a safe and fun 4th of July!  Happy Birthday America!   

Dress: Hot-As-Hell / Flip Flops: Havaianas / Sunglasses: RAEN (featured in The Zoe Report Summer 2017 Box of Style) / Necklace: Adore Jewelry / Necklace: The Brave Collection (featured in The Zoe Report Summer 2017 Box of Style)

Photographed by Laci Havens

BUSY AF

Happy Friday everyone!  Wow, it has been a good minute since I last did a blog post.  My bad!  I didn’t mean to neglect my blog, but I have been busy AF this past month.  First it was my birthday, then the trip to Tulum, Mexico, and now I’m headed to Shanghai, China tomorrow for another two weeks!

Enough of my excuses.  I wanted to write this post to 1) let y’all know that I’m alive and still here, 2) post these pretty pictures that are too good to be left on just my hard drive, and 3) talk about the juggling of four part-time jobs.  Yes, I said FOUR.  I’ve mentioned in the past that I’m an actress, but I’m also a social media consultant, a fashion/lifestyle blogger, AND a server at a WeHo restaurant.  I know it’s not as glamorous as it sounds now that I’ve bursted the bubble of a LA-blogger, but we all have to make ends meet.  And being a server helps me do just that…make ends meet.

So, while other bloggers who have day jobs get to go home and type up a blog post or grab a drink and chat it up at some new product launch event, I get to go from my day job(s) to my night job.  This makes social media engagements and dating quite hard because I have such little time to do everything that usually requires a full-time job dedication.

Here’s how I try to time manage my life so that I can make sure I still have the time to work on Kangthropologie and keep my sanity:

HAVE YOUR “WEEKEND”

While most people would think weekends pertain to Saturdays and Sundays, my weekend starts on Sunday.  I make sure that I give myself at least two days per week to not do “work” work.  That means no consulting, no acting classes, no server shifts, nada.  (Disclaimer: obviously I make exceptions if it’s an audition or a shoot since that’s priority numero uno).  I make Sundays my date day and Mondays my photoshoot day.  Since I don’t shoot every week, the Mondays I have off are time spent watching Netflix, Kdrama and hanging out in my PJs all day.

HAVE A “LIFE”

It’s really hard to have fun and actually enjoy life when you’re too busy working all four jobs from day to night, which is why I have decided to scale back on my social media posts and engagements in order to give myself time to actually enjoy what I’m blogging about.

As I just mentioned, I recently went to Tulum and had the most incredible time!  (Blog post about my Tulum trip is coming up next).  We could have gone and just shot great content all day, but then we would have missed out on the beauty and fun there is to have there.  While I normally post once a day on Instagram, I decided that I didn’t want to be worrying about engagement and only posted every other day.  I’m not recommending this to any influencers out there who are taking this more seriously than I am; however, there’s only 24 hours in a day and I don’t have any assistance or interns for help, so something has got to give.  In this particular case, I decided to scale back on social media engagements and posts.

MAKE EVERY HOUR COUNT

For those of you out there that already have a significant other, congrats.  Kiss your man/woman and thank them for sticking by your side.  For me, it’s really hard to date when you don’t even have time to call your own mother.  REALLY hard.  But I try to make time by making every hour count.  Sundays are our days to hangout, but if I’m out of town or have previous plans then we only have the few hours during the week that we can talk on the phone or meet up for a drink.  If your love life is a priority, then make sure you make time for it.

DON’T TAKE IT TOO SERIOUSLY

I know I say this too lightly and could offend a lot of bloggers, brands, and content creators out there that do this full-time, but, don’t take social media too seriously.  It’s a great creative outlet, and people can make some serious dough doing this well.  But know that this is all digital and stored up in cyberspace.  Your life should not be fully dependent on how many likes, followers and views you get.  Yes, work hard, build relationships with brands, and create beautiful, original content, but please make sure you stop and smell the flowers while you’re doing it.  Have a drink (or two) at that social media industry event, but be sure to meet some great people and don’t make it all about posting that perfect selfie.

I’ll be MIA again for the next couple of weeks due to internet restrictions in China, but I’ll be sure to sneak onto VPN here and there and post some fabulous pics.  My next post will be talking about what to really expect when you travel to Tulum, Mexico.  Have a great Memorial Weekend everyone!

Top: ZARA / Denim: Levi’s / Sunglasses: My own (similar look) / Shoes: EMU Australia / Bag: ZARA / Watch: Daniel Wellington / Crescent Necklace: Gorjana / Necklace: Gorjana

Photographed by Mire Yang

QUICK TO JUDGE

One of the first things I will openly admit is how judgmental I am.  I’m not bragging.  This isn’t exactly a great quality to have, but it is what it is.  I’m quick to judge a person within the first 5 minutes of our conversation.  This could easily explain why I only have a handful of people I call “friends”, and everyone else just comes and goes.

It wasn’t until a recent situation in my life that caused me to really start thinking about how I am perceived, and how I am judged by people.  I once took an acting class where I had to turn my back to my class as my fellow actors and classmates wrote down words they think described who I was based on just the introduction line, “Hi, my name is…”.  I often get words like: authoritative, professional, perky, cute, strong, smart.  Are these words correct?  Can I be summed up by just a few adjectives?

This situation must really bother me, or else, why would it be on my mind?  Why else would it affect me so much to where I felt the need to blog about it.  I’ve come to realize that my own insecurities about my life choices have caused me to feel the need to impress and to prove to people that I’m not a “dumb dumb”.  Yes, I’m an actress/blogger, but I don’t want these titles to define me.  I feel the need to say I’m a Georgia Tech grad who chose to pursue the career of an entertainer, but does that change the fact that I’m still currently an actress and blogger?  No.

I guess what I’m trying to get at is that we all have insecurities about ourselves.  We will always feel the need to put forth our best side and impress people we know and don’t know.  It’s okay to feel this way, but don’t ever let those insecurities change who you are.  Be happy with who you are, where you are, and how you are.  If you’re not happy with yourself, no one else will be either.  I know this sounds so cliché, but my hope is that by me sharing some of my own personal struggles that it will somehow help you in your own daily life.  Sending y’all love and light, xoxo!

Cactus Necklace: You.nic Shop / Lariat: You.nic Shop / Rings: Gorjana

Dress: ZARA / Sunglasses: My own (similar look) / Bag: Vintage Chanel / Shoes: ZARA (sold out | similar look)

Photographed by Laci Havens

ONE BAD EXPERIENCE

I’m typing up this blog post while I lay half dead in bed from a very bad food poisoning experience I had yesterday.  The worst part is that it happened in one of my favorite restaurants, ever.  It’s a very popular vegan/vegetarian restaurant in Venice, and I’m sure I’ll be back to dine after a few months of forgiveness.  I’m just so sad that this one bad experience has left me wondering about my diet and my consumption of food in restaurants.

I’ve been a pescatarian for 9 years and going.  I love my occasional raw seafood, and most of my protein comes from eggs and beans.  I had dined out at a well-known, quality seafood restaurant in Santa Monica the evening before, and then ordered a breakfast burrito for lunch the next day at said vegetarian restaurant.  I knew something was off with the eggs the moment I bit into the second half of my breakfast burrito.  However, the sickness and nausea came only 2 hours after my consumption.

I decided to place a courtesy phone call to the manager at the vegetarian restaurant to let them know that I was feeling sick and had been throwing up the past few hours, and perhaps they should check the quality of their eggs.  He informed me that food born illnesses don’t usually occur til 12-24 hours after consumption.  This would mean that I may have gotten sick at the seafood restaurant.  Raw seafood…more suspicious than cooked eggs, right?  But I had shared items with my friends that were dining with me at the seafood restaurant and none of them had gotten sick.  Just me.

Regardless of where I had gotten my food poisoning, the point is that I did, and I was completely out for the count yesterday.  My friends were from out of town and I had to cancel my plans with them the rest of the day because I couldn’t even stand up.  I had dined at two very popular and well-known restaurants and this unfortunate event still occurred.  Has this ever happened to any of you?  And if so, have you gone back to that same restaurant?  I’d like to hear about your experiences.

Denim: Vintage Liz Claiborne (similar look) / Sunglasses: Oliver Peoples (sold out | similar look)  / Top: A.L.C. / Belt: Coach / Coat: MinkPink / Shoes: Forever 21 (sold out | similar look)

Photographed by Larry Wong

MOOD

Lots of stuff happened last week that’s f*cked with my mood.  First, it’s the rain storm that’s been pouring down over LA the last few days, and will continue to do so until Tuesday.  Secondly, rain or shine, people all over the nation gathered in peaceful protest for the Women’s March to stand with Planned Parenthood, (thanks a lot Trump).  Regardless of your political stance, women have fought way too hard the past six decades to have our rights reversed or stigmatized.  Third, I caught a small cold from the ever fluctuating weather.  Sigh.

So what to do to combat all this negative energy?  I’ve decided to share some of the things I do to get myself out of this funk…

  • Light My Favorite Candle

Already, I have an abnormal obsession with fragrant candles.  Ask any one of my friends, and they’ll tell you that I have an abundance of candles all over my studio ready to be lit.  They’re all different fragrances and I light them depending on my mood.  I find myself with a much better attitude when I’m surrounded by a beautiful fragrance.  It’s soothes my inner thoughts and I think about tranquility versus whatever it was that was annoying me.  Here are some of my favorite fragrances:

  • Wash My Hair

For some reason I always feel better after I wash my hair.  Something about a clean bed of hair lightens my mood.  I’ve recently started using Living Proof hair products and I’m seriously enjoying them (not sponsored to say this, for realz).  The fragrance is not overwhelming and I love how my hair is full, clean and soft.  I even purchased a new blow dryer because of how much I enjoy a great blow out after I wash my hair.  Here are the new hair products I’m using:

  • Go Workout

Anytime I’m under stress or not in a good mood, I find that I feel much better after I take a workout class.  I’m not going to lie, it’s hard to first motivate myself to get out of bed to attend this said workout class, but I’m always happy with my decision afterwards.  The release of endorphins and sweat gets all the toxins out of my mind and body and I feel ready for the day.  I have the privilege of living in LA where there’s a workout studio around every corner, but not everyone lives in cities like LA.  So, my recommendation would be to go for a quick jog around your neighborhood if a workout class is not readily available.

I’m not the guru of all things, and it’s not like I never have a bad moody day.  But the next time you’re in a funk, try one of the three things I listed and see if it helps out at all.  Now that we have a new president in office, I’m sure there will be plenty more days of lighting candles, washing my hair, and running on a treadmill.  Thanks for reading! Xoxo!

Dress: Stone Cold Fox (on sale) / Bag: Chanel WOC / Shoes: Forever 21 (sold out | similar look)

Photographed by Mire Yang

CONTENT

Not sure what sparked me to type this up, but perhaps it was a recent conversation I had with my sister about happiness.  She’s got a VERY busy job, and both her and her husband work in the financial corporate world.  They have two beautiful boys in elementary and a big ass house in Dallas.  They go on vacation at least 3-4 times a year, and we’re not talking a trip to the zoo.  I mean serious week long vacations to the Caribbean, Costa Rica, or on a cruise to somewhere also tropical.  My nephews have been to Hawaii more times than me and I’m a grown adult, (kind of).

With all that said, my sister still feels like she’s not spending enough quality time with her kids.  Her life is wrapped around making her family happy, but that means she has to work harder and make more money to support their “happiness”.  Their quality of life seems to get more and more expensive.

I’m a single female, never been married, and don’t have any kids other than my dog.  My happiness and joy come from very different aspects than my sister, but I couldn’t help but ask her this one simple question: at what point are you content with life?  We all strive hard to be successful in our own careers, and have goals that we want to obtain in life.  But at what point are we content with what we have and can sustain that moment of happiness?

I say this with as much frivolity as possible since all this is just bullshit coming from a FASHION blogger.  Yes, someone who thrives on the most ostentatious things in life that means nothing when this is all said and done.  But I hope we all take a moment and think about our health, our family, our happiness, and go into the upcoming new year with positive thoughts, obtainable goals, and contentment with who and where we are at the present moment.  Happy holidays everyone! Xo!

LA Made Jackson DressDante Block Heel Boot / LA Made Reed Duster Cardigan / Nicole Vienna Soir Nº79 Link Watch / Vintage Gucci Horse Chain Bag

Photographed by Silvia Moreno

GOING THE DISTANCE

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I’m currently in Taipei, Taiwan hanging out with a guy that I met only 6 months ago and have only dated 3 of those 6 months.  We’ve been together for about the same amount of time as we’ve been apart.  I don’t recommend this to anyone, but I’m in a long distance relationship.  A real LONG DISTANCE relationship.  One that is about a Pacific Ocean apart.

Sure it’s been tough trying to keep the spark alive, but we do very well communicating even with the time change.  He’s exactly 15 hours ahead of me, and has to travel back in time everyday to say hello to me.  We use the app WeChat to text, call, and video chat one another.  Since he’s in China majority of the time, it’s easier for us to text and talk than to attempt a poor signal video chat.

I’ve had my doubts and paranoia, but it’s been a god-send to have my best girlfriends snap me out of my crazy thoughts and antics.  I guess the main thing I would say about this is to have TRUST.  You have to trust one another no matter what.  If you don’t have that basic foundation, there’s no point in going any further.  I know it’s easier said than done, coming from the person who just went through an episode right before typing up this blog post.  But yeah, you need to think that you’re both in it to win it.

Boy toy is gone for half a year, so to shorten that time frame, I decided to fly half way around the world to join him in Asia.  I’ve known friends in the past that have done the same in their long distance relationships.  Some have worked out and ended in marriage, and some are long gone like last year’s fringe footwear.  This isn’t my first long distance relationship, so hopefully I’ve learned from the past:

Take things slowly.

Don’t over commit.

Always communicate EVERYTHING, no matter how minute you think the issue is.

Don’t text while frustrated.  You’re not getting your message across.  Trust me.

Texts are subjective when read.

Sarcasm doesn’t always play well in texts.

Enjoy each others voices.

Savor those moments when you do video chat.

That’s about all I know.  Here’s to listening to my own advice ~
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ASOS Velvet Pearl Choker Necklace

No relationship is ever easy, even if you’re not long distance.  I’m a hopeless romantic and like to think that there’s always love and light at the end of the tunnel.  Do you think I’m crazy for flying so far to see about a boy, or do you think it’s a romantic gesture?  I’m curious to know what the rest of the sane world thinks.  Let me know!

Photographed by Hanna Snyder