IT’S ALWAYS SUNNY IN LA

Hey!  What’s up?  I’m back…  Yeah.  Sorry I’ve been MIA…again.  [Sounding like a guy who you dated for 3 months then suddenly ghosted on you].  I’ve got no excuses.  Well, I have a few excuses:

  1. I’m working multiple part time jobs, and they’re just taking up more of my time.
  2. I’ve got a boyfriend that I like to spend every free moment with when I’m not busy with my multiple part time jobs.
  3. I ran out of stuff that I wanted to or felt relevant enough to talk about.
  4. Editing and selecting photos to post is a bitch.
  5. I’ve lost motivation and
  6. I’ve gotten lazy.

So there.  But with that said, it’s not so much the fall as it is the rise back up, right?  The question to ask here is not why I disappeared, but why I decided to come back.  What has actually motivated me enough to type up this blog post?

Well, I don’t want to give you one of those “top 5 ways to stay motivated about your blog” kind of BS post.  The real reason I felt motivated to blog again is that I’m working with a new photographer, Anthony Newen, which shot these beautiful images that I felt necessary to post and show everyone. I also felt guilty about dropping the ball on my blog.  It’s only been just a little over 2 years, and I’m already losing my mojo.

As an actress in LA, I don’t have much control over my life.  I don’t get to make the judgement calls on whether to cast me in a show, film or commercial.  However, in blogging, I have full creative control in my content, in my verbiage, my theme, my style, my everything.  So why would I want to give up on the only thing I can control in beautiful, sunny LA?  I don’t, and thus I’m back.  I guess I just took the roundabout way of saying I took for granted what I had, and it took me a whole month to realize that.

I want to apologize to you, my readers, for leaving y’all for so long.  To make up for it, I want to let y’all know there is a Reformation Sample Sale this weekend in Culver City!!  (See SALES for more deets).  You see, it’s always sunny in LA.


PS, I’m sure you’re aware that I’ve chopped off my hair even more!  What do you think of it?  Do you like the new haircut?  Be honest and let me know!

Bodysuit: Hot-As-Hell (similar look) / Denim: Urban Outfitters BDG / Hat: Hat Attack / Boots: Aerosoles

Photographed by Anthony Newen

REPEAT

So, I just want to forewarn my readers that this post may be a bit opinionated, somewhat politically incorrect, and fully soap-box charged.  These are simply my views and my views only, and has nothing to do with the brands I’m wearing in the pictures.  (Isn’t it sad that I have to actually write this disclaimer “just in case”?)

Anyway, I had originally planned to post this look yesterday.  Same outfit.  Same pics.  Same everything.  I was even going to throw in a bit about how I’m reworking an oldie back into my wardrobe, (SEE OVERALL).  However, once I woke up on Monday morning and heard about the gun shooting massacre in Las Vegas, I scratched my whole post.  I decided to write something more poignant to the subject of gun control, or lack there of.

When I was younger, my sister would play this prank on me.  She would say, “Pete and Repeat went on a boat.  Pete fell out.  Who’s in the boat?”  And I would answer, “Repeat!”  Then she would start again, “Pete and Repeat went on a boat.  Pete fell out.  Who’s in the boat?”  And sure enough, I would be a sucker and yell, “Repeat!”  This would go on and on until I caught onto the joke: ‘Repeat’.  I feel like this is similar to the American public being fooled over and over again by the government and their stance on tackling gun control issues.  How many times must we yell “Repeat!” before we realize that the joke is on us?  How many more gun shooting massacres?  How many more deaths?  How many more tragedies?  How many more families ruined and terrorized?  How many?  Is there a threshold we must break in order for the government and the NRA to finally realize that we’re not trying to take away their right to bear arm, but to control WHO gets to bear arm?

They say history repeats itself.  They also say the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.  Nothing has changed on gun control, so why would I ever think that there wouldn’t be another mass gun shooting tragedy?  This travesty will continue to repeat itself until we decide to finally do something about gun control.  I have family members that have their CCW (Concealed Carry Weapon) permit.  They claim it’s to protect their family in case of burglary, home invasion, and “just in case”, but I’m not sure that handgun would do much good in a situation where someone is shooting an automatic weapon from the 32nd floor.

Regardless of where you stand on the 2nd amendment or guns in general, I would hope that we are all praying for the victims and their families.  Not all history is bad.  There is compassion, bravery, and selflessness throughout history in times like this.  I’m no longer on my soap box, and I just hope that I can encourage everyone to speak up when it comes to love and kindness.  God bless.



Top: Free People / Overall: Rollas Jeans (sold out | similar look)

Photographed by Stefanie Meier

HANDMADE

It has been two years since I started KANGTHROPOLOGIE, and one thing is certain: I LOVE dainty jewelry.  I’ve tried wearing more ornate pieces, as well as costume jewelry, and they just swallow me alive.  My only exception is when gemstones are involved, and they’re designed simple and elegant.

I’ve recently came across the jewelry line, Starletta Designs, and there’s something about quality, handmade pieces that make me swoon.  Tara Reid is the designer, and she hand makes each of her beautiful pieces.  What I love about it is that the designs showcase the gemstones, and doesn’t try to add other intricacies that take away from the gemstone itself.

I’m seen wearing the Champagne Druzy Geode Gold Circle Pendant Necklace and the Champagne Druzy Gold Circle Earrings.  Both of these pieces can stand alone on its own.  Nothing about the design is overwhelming, but they shine with me wearing something as simple as a one-piece suit.

Starletta Designs have been seen in some great TV shows, and hopefully one day you’ll be seeing me wearing one of her pieces on a show as well.  Here’s to supporting handmade goodness.  Happy Thursday everyone!

Swimwear: Tiger Mist / Necklace: Starletta Designs / Earrings: Starletta Designs

Photographed by Stefanie Meier

**This post is sponsored by Starletta Designs**

LACES OUT

We are in that transition period again where summer is slowly fading away during the day, but fall approaches quickly at night.  Weather like this requires light layering pieces that we can add on and/or take off on a whim, and I tend to lean towards light lacey tops over bralettes.

I recently attended the CMG fall preview of Who What Wear‘s new collection for Target, and fell in love with so many of their light layering tops, specifically this Layered Lace Top, which is under $30!  I especially love the lace on lace look that gives an off-the-shoulder effect.

I was pleasantly surprised at the quality of the material.  Nothing against Target, but I don’t exactly think “high-quality” when I purchase Target brand clothing.  They’re more of your basic-go-to-one-day-throw-away type clothing, but their recent rebranding of affordable contemporary designer clothing has really impressed me.  Sizing wise, I wish there was more of a selection for petite size people like me.  Their XS tops seem to fit me okay, but their bottoms fall in the sizing range of American Gap, big.

I have a couple more looks coming soon that show off more of this light, lace top style.  Check back soon and I’ll talk about how to look chic while wearing see-thru tops.  Xoxo!

I’m obsessed with oversize shades.  They have the perfect retro vibe and quickly elevates a look from meh to street chic.  I found several great, (and cheap), oversize sunnies on zeroUV.  Most styles are under $10!  You’re welcome.

Top: Who What Wear / Denim: Reformation (vintage | similar look) / Sunnies: zeroUV / Shoes: LuLu’s / Bag: Vintage Chanel (my own) / Earrings: Charming Charlie

Photographed by Stefanie Meier

I’VE BEEN DATING IN LA FOR 10 YEARS…

I would just like to start off by first saying that I am no love guru.  I got out of a serious 2.5 year relationship at the end of 2007, then moved from Atlanta to Austin to Dallas to LA all in 2008.  I have been dating and in a number of short lived relationships ever since then.  Essentially, I don’t know shit about dating, which is why I have been dating in LA for almost 10 years.  However, through all my trials and tribulations I’ve learned a few things about dating in LA, and this is what I’ve learned through my experiences:

DTR

Define the relationship.  “The talk”.  “What are we?”  At any point in every dating cycle, you will eventually get to the place where you must define your relationship.  Are you two just dating, dating exclusively, or in a relationship.  This is the one town I’ve lived in where the gray zone is infinite.  You’re always somewhere in between seeing other people and dating exclusively.  I once dated a guy for 6 months, half of which was international long distance, flew half way around the world to see him, and found out we were in the gray zone.

Then there are times where you are already in a relationship and didn’t even know it because of his noncommittal behavior.  You don’t know where you stand in your relationship with him, so you don’t know if you’re allowed to call him out on his behavior.  This one time I found out I was in a relationship because he called me his girlfriend in a complaint email he sent to an airline acting as my lawyer AND boyfriend.  Expectations change the minute you realize you’re in a relationship.

Point is, there is no definitive time or duration in a dating cycle that is the perfect time to have “the talk”.  But most of my stress and paranoia in dating are relieved after I know where I stand in the relationship.  I feel like most women usually start the conversation after three months of seeing someone, but there could be a +/- 2 months difference for each individual.

CHOICES

One of the best things about dating in LA is that there are many choices.  If someone doesn’t work out you can quickly find a replacement, even within seconds (i.e. Tinder, Bumble).  One of the worst things about dating in LA is that there are many choices.  Too many.  There are so many men and women to pick from that no one ever sticks around to see if anything can actually happen.  It is possible to play the game and actually date someone for 3 months and it leads to nothing.

We’ll find little things we don’t like about the other person and find an excuse not to date them anymore.  I know I’m personally guilty of this.  I had dated a guy that was PERFECT on paper.  My parents would have killed for me to end up with him, but I just couldn’t get over him constantly clearing of his throat.  It was like nails on a chalkboard to me.  I felt like he had permanent loogie.  Was this indeed a deal breaker?  Probably not.  But I decided it was enough of a distraction for me to find someone better.

I think we move on too quickly rather than waiting it out to see if you find something nice about the person that takes away the distraction.  I would complain to my girlfriends about something I don’t like about the guy, and they would immediately call it a red flag and tell me to dump him.  All too quickly would I agree, and the relationship would end.  I think if I had more patience, I wouldn’t have been single for so long.  (Please don’t misread this as settling.  I don’t ever want anyone to just settle.  I’m a hopeless romantic and believe in find Prince Charming and true love.  But this isn’t the 50’s anymore, and Prince Charming doesn’t come packaged like they use to.  We have to fall in love with what we have now, and that could come with some kinks.)

CHICKEN OR THE EGG

Somewhere in the LA dating scene, someone became an asshole and someone became a bitch.  It’s like the chicken or the egg.  Did the asshole create the bitch or did the bitch create the asshole.  Not sure who started it first, but this epidemic had spread like wild fire.  Suddenly guys felt like they had to be assholes to get chicks, and women felt like they had to be bitches in order to keep their man.  The sad part is that it’s all too true.

I remember once joking with my girlfriends that we would have to drive out to the California state line and find guys to date there before they’ve been tainted by LA.  I wish I would have just been okay with just dating, but I felt obligated to play “the game”.  I had to make myself busy and unavailable, and could only answer the text or call after 3 hours or 3 days.  I would make plans with my girlfriends and get super dolled up, and send him sexy selfies while we were out partying to make it seem like I was having so much fun without him.  Then drunk dial him at 1:30am.  Why ladies?  Why do we do these silly things that are not necessary, and set ourselves up for a floozy relationship?

I’d like to think that this behavior stems from youth and immaturity, but in reality, it’s just the vibe of LA.  Everyone has Peter Pan Syndrome, and no one wants to grow up and have a mature relationship.  If we can all just learn to play nice with each other, we might not have so many bitches and assholes out there.

LONG DISTANCE

Because dating was so bad for me in LA, I tried dating long distance…three times.  Yup.  THREE times.  The first guy was someone I met briefly 9 years ago, but had a mutual friend and sort of kept in touch.  He lived in Texas at the time, but then moved to San Fran and reached out.  I knew SF was 6 hours away by car, but it was only a short 45 minute plane ride.  The back and forth trips didn’t last too long and the relationship crumbled within 6 months of being on and off again.

The second guy was someone who I met in LA, dated for 3 months then found out he was leaving the country for 6 months for work.  (Read more on GOING THE DISTANCE).  Long story short, we didn’t work out either.  You would think that I have learned my lesson after the second time, but no, third time’s a charm.

Guy number 3 was introduced to me through a mutual friend.  We hit it off immediately, but I found out once again, about 3 months in, that he was going to go on an around the world trip for 2 months. I don’t know what it is with me and guys who want to leave the country after 3 months of dating me, but it wasn’t something I wasn’t already use to, so the two of us agreed to stay in touch while he was on his excursion.  We texted just about everyday and did video calls whenever he had decent reception.  I waited for him for 2 months, and it has paid off.  We are still together, and have also agreed to not take trips longer than 2 weeks without each other.

I not saying long distance is for everyone.  It takes a lot of patience, understanding, and trust.  But if you can get over this hump, everything else is a piece of pie.  I have a friend who met someone long distance, dated him long distance, and is now married to him and they’re still long distance.  If you want to be with someone, you make it work.  No matter the odds.

☮❤︎☆

Top: Who What Wear / Shorts: My own vintage collection (similar look on sale) / Shoes: Steve Madden / Sunnies: zeroUV (sold out | similar look) / Earrings: Charming Charlie (on sale)

Photographed by Stefanie Meier

BLACK BEAN AND BROWN RICE KALE SALAD

BLACK BEAN & BROWN RICE KALE SALAD

I’ve always been a lazy cook.  I wish I was more like my mom, and knew how to make fancy dishes that would take hours of marinating and prep work.  However, I’ve got a busy life juggling 4 PT jobs so I need quick. delicious reciepes if I plan on ever eating at home.

My go-to one-stop-shop store is Trader Joes.  It never does me wrong.  I can create a gazillion different quick fix salads from their store, and the black bean and brown rice kale salad is one of my favorites to make.  It has the protein and fiber I need in my vegetarian diet, and a mexican flavor I crave for everyday.  This salad takes no more than 10 mins to make since everything is pretty much ready to eat.  Hope you enjoy and let me know what you think!

RECEIPE

Prep time: 5 mins

Cook time: 5 mins

Serving size: 1 serving

INGREDIENTS
  • 2 cups pre-chopped kale
  • 1 stick of persian cucumber
  • 2 pearl tomatoes
  • 1/2 cup of chopped green onions (usually one large bunch or two small bunches)
  • 1/4 cup of chopped cilantro (or however much to your tasting)
  • 2 TBSP olive oil
  • 2 TBSP chopped garlic
  • 1 cup cooked brown rice
  • 2 TBSP TJ’s Salsa Autentica
  • 1 can of TJ’s Black Beans

 

Pop the frozen pre-cooked brown rice into the microwave and cook for 3 mins.  With a small sauce pan, add the olive oil and chopped garlic over a med-low heat.  As soon as the garlic starts to brown, add the can of TJ’s Black Beans.  (Pour out some of the black bean liquid first, but leave some because the brown rice will be added to it later).  Stir the black beans and garlic and let that simmer on low heat.

In a large salad bowl, add the 2 cups of pre-chopped, ready-to-eat Kale.  I like my cucumber in big chunks, so I first halve the stick of cucumber then chop it into 1/2 in pieces.  Add that to the kale.  Then quarter the 2 pearl tomatoes, and add that to the salad.  Throw in the chopped green onions and cilantro.

The brown rice should be done cooking in the microwave now.  Turn the heat off on the black beans and add the brown rice to the sauce pan.  Stir the black beans and brown rice, then add about a cup of the mixture to the salad.  Add some TJ’s Salsa Autentica and you’re ready to eat!

I recommend also trying it with some fresh diced avocados or some fresh lime juice to add some additional texture and flavor.

 

KEEP AUSTIN WEIRD

Two months ago, (while sipping tequila), my girlfriends and I decide on a whim that we’re going to go to Austin, TX for Labor Day Weekend.  Flash forward to Hurricane Harvey.  This of course occurs a week before our trip, and Austin has taken in a lot of the evacuees from Houston.  What started out as a fun girls trip is now a huge dilemma because we didn’t want to fly to Austin for queso and fun when there are people sleeping on cots at shelters who have just lost their homes.

After much discussion, we decided that we can go and do some volunteer work while we’re in Austin.  Once we arrived though, we found out that you can’t just show up at a shelter and pass out water.  We had to apply online, go through orientation and training, and commit to almost 10 days of volunteer work.  We were there from Saturday through Tuesday, so this didn’t work out.

But as it turns out, the vibe in Austin was “normal” and business as usual.  UT Austin had their first football game of the season (sorry about the loss), people were drinking and partying on 6th Street, and the city didn’t feel or look like it was under any kind of hurricane distress.  We decided to make the most of our trip and attend events that would help out Hurricane Harvey.

I use to live in Austin, and I loved the city.  It has a huge food truck industry, and there were so many things to do and explore.  Here is my list of things I recommend doing when you visit Austin:

  • Swim at Barton Springs (It costs $3 if you’re an Austin resident and $8 if you’re not)
  • Eat Tex-Mex at Chuy’s (It’s not the best food, but if you want yellow cheese, unlimited chips and salsa, and frozen margaritas, this hits the spot)
  • Grab a drink or two or three on Rainey Street (there are SO many bars, and you can just hop from one spot to another)
  • Eat brunch at Café No Sé (probably the healthiest meal we had while we were there, and the place is stinking adorable)
  • Get a slice of the Texas Cheddar Cheese Curd pizza at the ABGB (I ordered two slices of pizza and a beer for $12)
  • Try the esquites at ATX Cocina (this is a fancy new gluten free restaurant near the W Hotel, and has a great ambiance; be sure to make a reservation because this place does not accommodate well to walk-ins)

You would never expect the capital of one of the most republican states in the US to be as liberal, open minded, and creative.  No one was riding around on horses, except the cops on 6th Street.  And there was so much diversity in this great college town.  Austin is not a city you would expect to find in conservative Texas, but I guess that’s why it’s considered weird. #KeepAustinWeird

Dress: Band of Gypsies / Shoes: Marc Fisher (sold out | similar look) / Bag: The Line / Sunnies: Illesteva

Photographed by Mire Yang

Here are some personal photos I took of our trip:

Our AirBnB Austin home had so much charm and originality.

This bedroom just says TEXAS.

While we waited for our table for brunch, we stopped by the antique store, Uncommon Objects.

Absolutely loved the brunch we had at Café No Sé.  Highly recommend their Bloody Mary.

Our first night out, and we decided to venture into Rainey Street.

TO THE MOON

Did you get to see the solar eclipse last week?  In case you didn’t know, a solar eclipse is when the the Moon passes between the Sun and the Earth, and the Moon fully or partially blocks the Sun.  It was clearly a historical moment, but the only thing that I remember from that day was how people kept advising everyone else to wear proper eyewear before looking at the sun.  So thanks to the Moon, we all got to walk around in cool, special eye protection.

Here are some of my favorite shades that are not for solar eclipse viewing, but look good AF the other 364 days of the year:

Dress: Band of Gypsies / Sunnies: Quay Australia / Bag: The Line / Boots: Nasty Gal (sold out | similar look)

Photographed by Mire Yang

IT TAKES TWO TO MAKE A THING GO RIGHT

I love shopping.  Duh.  Who doesn’t?  But I really love shopping for people, especially my family and close friends.  I love helping them pick out clothes and try on stuff that they normally wouldn’t have picked out for themselves.  In a way, I’m like their personal shopper, but I often have to pick out an entire outfit for them.

Like most of the people I help shop for, my mother doesn’t have a mental inventory of what she has in her closet.  So when we go shopping I have to pick out a top, a bottom, a bag, a pair of shoes…the whole shebang, (regardless if she already owns something close or similar).  That’s why when an influx of two-piece and matching sets came out this past spring/summer season, I got really excited.  The top and bottom have already been picked out for you!  (No need to call me anymore asking me what top goes with what bottom, #yourewelcomemother).

For Love and Lemons, Faithfull The Brand, and Band of Gypsies all came out amazing prints for their matching sets that I want to wear over and over again.  The best part is that these matching pieces stand out individually, and can be worn separately with other great stuff that you already have.  So, like the lyrics of Rob Base and DJ EZ Rock’s song, “It Takes Two To Make a Thing Go Right”.  Here are some of my favorite matching sets that came out this past summer season:

In between takes, I decided to switch to some daintier earrings.  These Mejuri studs are just the perfect touch of simplicity and elegance.  I am so in love with this jewelry line!

Top: Missguided / Bottom: Missguided / Earrings: Charming Charlie / Necklace: Mejuri / Shoes: Jeffrey Campbell (similar look)

Photographed by Stefanie Meier

FATAL ATTRACTION

I believe I was wearing Reformation even in one of my very first blog posts, (see EARTH FRIENDLY).  I have been utterly obsessed with this brand ever since I was introduced to it two years ago, and my bank account has never looked so poor since.  This is what I call a fatal attraction.  My deadly desire to buy everything they make, and my credit card just can’t support my wants.

This summer was probably one of their best collections yet, and I can’t help but want to let everyone know just what I’ve been eye fucking:

Rosella Dress 
Rufus Jumpsuit (Petite)
Beliz Dress (Petite)

I’m hoping that for the sake of being able to feed my dog that I will stop my obsession.  Please Reformation, make something unattractive!


Oh, and if you love this Evil Eye necklace that I’m seen wearing, Mejuri has teamed up with Urgent Action Fund to donate from sales of the Evil Eye Collection to empower women and trans rights activists at critical moments. So if you’re going to shop anyway, shop for a good cause.  #MeForHer

Dress: Reformation / Shades: Crap Eyewear (sold out | similar look) / Necklace: Mejuri / Shoes: Forever 21 (sold out | similar look) / Bag: The Line (sold out | similar look)

Photographed by Stefanie Meier