DISCRETION

I remember when I first started to blog my favorite bloggers were those who were honest, open, and vulnerable to their readers.  I like that they didn’t care if they cursed, gave away their engagement secrets or said politically incorrect stuff.  So, when I started to write my own posts, I felt the need to be just as open and honest about my own personal life as the influencers that I admired.

I feel as though I’ve been pretty good about opening up about my personal life.  Whether it be my career changes, my skincare routine or my dating life.  Truth be told, I felt as if I was writing to no one because I wasn’t sure if anyone actually cared to read my blog.  However, with everything that’s been happening to me lately, I’m almost concerned about how much I’m disclosing of my life and whether I should write with discretion.

This is all spurned from last night’s event.  I’ll explain.  I’ve mentioned in a recent post that I am having career changes.  With that said, I’m back to waitressing at my restaurant job.  I served a very lovely couple last night.  I served them before about two months ago, and it just happen so that I was their waitress again when they returned two months later.  I won’t use their real names, so let’s just call them Harry* and Sally*.  Harry and Sally are a bit older.  They’re not like my parents age, but perhaps in their late 40s to early 50s.  Sally and Harry seemed to be having a fabulous time, but after a few drinks Sally began to tell me about their relationship.  Mind you, Harry is sitting right there in front of her.  She told me that they’ve been seeing each other on and off since 2013, and that everything was great except his infidelity.  Screech!  Pull the brakes.  Awkward situation.  Harry is trying to be polite of the predicament they’re in, and mentioned that I’m not the first person to become their relationship therapist.  Sally, (hopefully very drunk), was very confident and secure about how little discretion she has about anything.

Sally then continues on about how Harry’s ex-wife is now back in the picture, and that he’s just stringing her along.  As embarrassing as it was for Harry to sit there through the whole situation, it was more strange for me because I did’t know if Sally wanted me to chime in and agree with her.  From a female to a female, I would completely empathize with her situation.  She’s beautiful, tall and with a great career.  He’s charming, short and rich AF.  However, Harry doesn’t seem to know what he wants.  I found all this out in a matter of 15 minutes.  TMI?  Definitely.

This is what got me thinking about how much I broadcast to the whole world about my own love life.  I never mention my boyfriend’s name.  I don’t really ever talk about him or post pictures of us, and hopefully I’ll never use this outlet to air out our dirty laundry.  I think there’s a certain level of discretion we should all use when it comes to blogging about our personal life.  Sure I would love to be able to connect with my readers more by letting them know of my ups and downs, but I feel that privacy is still important, especially when it comes to relationships.  By no means will I be censoring myself, but I just wanted to let y’all know if you ever felt like I was holding myself back.

Hopefully everyone had a great Valentine’s Day, and I hope you continue to enjoy your long President’s Day weekend.  Drink responsibly.  Xo!

Bikini Top: Ark Swimwear / Bikini Bottom: Ark Swimwear / Top: Flair The Label / Sunnies: Illesteva / Hat: Sole Society / Necklace: Sugarfix for BaubleBar / Hair Scrunchie: Forever 21

Photographed by Stefanie Meier

GALENTINE’S DAY: WHAT PINTEREST IS ALL ABOUT

 

Go ahead.  Scroll through and look at the pics first.  Feel free to drop your jaw a few times or say that’s ‘So effin gorgeous!’ as many times as you want.  I won’t even be offended if you don’t end up reading my post.  Pinterest is about to get some new pins.

So here’s the story of how I got to participate in one of the most beautifully curated photo/video shoots of my blogger life.  Last weekend I had the privilege of spending a mock Galentine’s Day with 6 other beautiful influencers.  The brainchild of this whole concept, Heather of @heather_roams, reached out to each of us with this magical, boho vision.  Though I have never met any of the other ladies before this beach day, I was immediately welcomed with bright smiles and warm personalities.  How we got away with no egos, no complaints and no drama is beyond me.  It can be a bitch (pun intended) to get 7 women who are complete strangers to act like they like one another, but it’s a whole other experience when we all actually get along.  We truly embraced the idea of Galentine’s Day as well as each other.


What made this shoot even more beautiful and special was that the crew and talent were predominantly women.  Other than the film crew, the rest of the team were all women.  #hifive

I know I’ve used the word beautiful a gazillion times already, but that’s literally what this shoots was…fucking BEAUTIFUL.  I wouldn’t be surprised if you googled the word beautiful and one of these images pop up in your search.

I’m going to be doing more videos and Vlogging, so be sure to subscribe to my YouTube channel!

I’m so glad I got to share this experience with these 6 gorgeous women.  Be sure to check out their Instagram feeds!

@heather_roams

@withjenrachel

@kendall.fuhrman

@amy_marietta

@themadgrace

@brendawasylucha

Other than the images that are shown here, I also shot some other looks with two very talented and gorgeous photographers, Carrie Rogers and Lauren Newman, who are both new to the LA area.

 Btw, I left the images in the filtered edits that were provided by the photographers so you can distinguish between their work.  Carrie’s images have a more soft and romantic hue, while Lauren’s images are more bright with high contrast.

Thank you to everyone who made these happy moments possible!  Happy Galentine’s Day ladies! Xo!

Planner: Weddings By Sabrina / Videographer: Alpha Wolves / Photographer: Lauren Newman Photography / Photographer: Carrie Rogers Photography / Florals: Sibyl Sophia / Makeup Artist: Tami Bernard Makeup / Catering: Urban Palate / Calligraphy: Ink Topiary / Table: American Wood Importers

CHANGES

I just got out of a 50 minute massage at The Now.  My mind is clear and calm, and I feel like I can breathe for the first time in two weeks.  I have made some difficult decisions in my life that I’m starting to slowly implement, and it has already made my life much simpler and happier.  I wanted to share these personal life choices with you in hopes that you will consider what changes you may need in your life.  Especially with the new year abound, maybe now is the best time for you to start thinking of your new year resolutions.

Career Change

I have mentioned in previous posts that I’m juggling between 4 (sometimes 4.5) part-time jobs.  They come and go in terms of their own busy season, but the past two months have been nightmarishly busy with all 4 jobs.  Nothing in particular that would make one want to jump off a building, but enough to make one consider quitting.  I’m just spread too thin, and can’t focus on any one job.

I have decided that the server job is the one I have to let go.  For those of you who have never served, it is quite tedious.  Not the bussing of the tables or memorizing the menu, but dealing with the people itself.  People can be quite the pain when they want gluten-free, cilantro-free, onion-free or any other dietary restriction at a busy restaurant.  I’m a pescatarian.  I know what a pain I can be.  Point is, I am letting go of the one job that I know I can make considerable cash per shift.  As an actress and blogger, I can’t guarantee when I’ll get paid, but as a server, I know exactly how much I’m going home with each night.  This was a heavy decision to make, but I think freeing up my evenings will make my other jobs more enjoyable during the day.

Lifestyle Change

I don’t have much free time working 4 PT jobs, so when I do have time off, I’d like to make the most of it with eating out and having wine…and lots of it.  I decided to scale back on my shifts at my server job last week, and noticed that my lifestyle habits stayed the same. I still wanted to go out for dinner and drinks, but now with half the cash income.  Thank goodness a good girlfriend suggested that we go to hot yoga instead.  I’m so glad I took her suggestion.  I felt 10x better after class, and I went home and made myself a salad.  I didn’t have the hangover I would have the next day, and I woke up early and refreshed for my day jobs.  It was just a slight change, but that decision made all the difference.  SO, my recommendation is this: the next time you decide to take your work stress out on a bottle of wine, to instead try going to a workout class or even just yoga.

Love Change

I haven’t been in a long term, serious relationship in a VERY LONG time, (since 2007 to be exact), so now that I am in a committed relationship of 9 months I feel like a fish out of water.  I know how to go on dates, and I know how to date short term.  What I forgot was the stuff that comes with dating long term (ie. family issues, living situation, thoughts on how to raise a family).  I have to now train myself to be okay with caring for someone without expecting anything in return.  I have been just one for so long, and I don’t know how to not be selfish.  This will be a work in progress, but the more I care for him than myself, the happier I am.

Appearance Change

As you all know, I decided to chop off my beautiful, long hair back in August.  I chopped it off even further in October.  I am now reminiscing my long hair.  Most of my friends have long hair, but I do see that I stand out more as an actress with short hair, (at least that’s what my agents are telling me).  I’m trying to tell myself that hair grows back, that Kim K. also chopped off her hair, and that I will book more jobs with this new look.  However, there’s this pit feeling inside that says a lob is better than a bob.  I’ll probably grow my hair to shoulder length as a compromise.

Point from this is that don’t let others tell you how you should look.  As an actress, I’m always judging myself and comparing myself to other actresses.  Why did they get booked and I didn’t?  Was it my hair?  Was it this?  Was it that?  I have to remind myself daily to stop these thoughts.  That the only thing I can control is my performance.  Chopping off my hair did separate me slightly from the crowd, but my ability to act will dictate whether or not I do well.  So focus on your strengths and talents, and don’t let something like the length of your hair hold you back.

Happy holidays everyone!  My next post will show you some of the gifts I’m giving to my friends and family for Christmas, and hopefully that will give you some ideas for your own holiday shopping.  Thanks for reading!

Dress: Hot-As-Hell / Sunglasses: zeroUV (they’re only $10!) / Purse: Chanel / Shoes: Steve Madden

Photographed by Laci Havens

I’VE BEEN DATING IN LA FOR 10 YEARS…

I would just like to start off by first saying that I am no love guru.  I got out of a serious 2.5 year relationship at the end of 2007, then moved from Atlanta to Austin to Dallas to LA all in 2008.  I have been dating and in a number of short lived relationships ever since then.  Essentially, I don’t know shit about dating, which is why I have been dating in LA for almost 10 years.  However, through all my trials and tribulations I’ve learned a few things about dating in LA, and this is what I’ve learned through my experiences:

DTR

Define the relationship.  “The talk”.  “What are we?”  At any point in every dating cycle, you will eventually get to the place where you must define your relationship.  Are you two just dating, dating exclusively, or in a relationship.  This is the one town I’ve lived in where the gray zone is infinite.  You’re always somewhere in between seeing other people and dating exclusively.  I once dated a guy for 6 months, half of which was international long distance, flew half way around the world to see him, and found out we were in the gray zone.

Then there are times where you are already in a relationship and didn’t even know it because of his noncommittal behavior.  You don’t know where you stand in your relationship with him, so you don’t know if you’re allowed to call him out on his behavior.  This one time I found out I was in a relationship because he called me his girlfriend in a complaint email he sent to an airline acting as my lawyer AND boyfriend.  Expectations change the minute you realize you’re in a relationship.

Point is, there is no definitive time or duration in a dating cycle that is the perfect time to have “the talk”.  But most of my stress and paranoia in dating are relieved after I know where I stand in the relationship.  I feel like most women usually start the conversation after three months of seeing someone, but there could be a +/- 2 months difference for each individual.

CHOICES

One of the best things about dating in LA is that there are many choices.  If someone doesn’t work out you can quickly find a replacement, even within seconds (i.e. Tinder, Bumble).  One of the worst things about dating in LA is that there are many choices.  Too many.  There are so many men and women to pick from that no one ever sticks around to see if anything can actually happen.  It is possible to play the game and actually date someone for 3 months and it leads to nothing.

We’ll find little things we don’t like about the other person and find an excuse not to date them anymore.  I know I’m personally guilty of this.  I had dated a guy that was PERFECT on paper.  My parents would have killed for me to end up with him, but I just couldn’t get over him constantly clearing of his throat.  It was like nails on a chalkboard to me.  I felt like he had permanent loogie.  Was this indeed a deal breaker?  Probably not.  But I decided it was enough of a distraction for me to find someone better.

I think we move on too quickly rather than waiting it out to see if you find something nice about the person that takes away the distraction.  I would complain to my girlfriends about something I don’t like about the guy, and they would immediately call it a red flag and tell me to dump him.  All too quickly would I agree, and the relationship would end.  I think if I had more patience, I wouldn’t have been single for so long.  (Please don’t misread this as settling.  I don’t ever want anyone to just settle.  I’m a hopeless romantic and believe in find Prince Charming and true love.  But this isn’t the 50’s anymore, and Prince Charming doesn’t come packaged like they use to.  We have to fall in love with what we have now, and that could come with some kinks.)

CHICKEN OR THE EGG

Somewhere in the LA dating scene, someone became an asshole and someone became a bitch.  It’s like the chicken or the egg.  Did the asshole create the bitch or did the bitch create the asshole.  Not sure who started it first, but this epidemic had spread like wild fire.  Suddenly guys felt like they had to be assholes to get chicks, and women felt like they had to be bitches in order to keep their man.  The sad part is that it’s all too true.

I remember once joking with my girlfriends that we would have to drive out to the California state line and find guys to date there before they’ve been tainted by LA.  I wish I would have just been okay with just dating, but I felt obligated to play “the game”.  I had to make myself busy and unavailable, and could only answer the text or call after 3 hours or 3 days.  I would make plans with my girlfriends and get super dolled up, and send him sexy selfies while we were out partying to make it seem like I was having so much fun without him.  Then drunk dial him at 1:30am.  Why ladies?  Why do we do these silly things that are not necessary, and set ourselves up for a floozy relationship?

I’d like to think that this behavior stems from youth and immaturity, but in reality, it’s just the vibe of LA.  Everyone has Peter Pan Syndrome, and no one wants to grow up and have a mature relationship.  If we can all just learn to play nice with each other, we might not have so many bitches and assholes out there.

LONG DISTANCE

Because dating was so bad for me in LA, I tried dating long distance…three times.  Yup.  THREE times.  The first guy was someone I met briefly 9 years ago, but had a mutual friend and sort of kept in touch.  He lived in Texas at the time, but then moved to San Fran and reached out.  I knew SF was 6 hours away by car, but it was only a short 45 minute plane ride.  The back and forth trips didn’t last too long and the relationship crumbled within 6 months of being on and off again.

The second guy was someone who I met in LA, dated for 3 months then found out he was leaving the country for 6 months for work.  (Read more on GOING THE DISTANCE).  Long story short, we didn’t work out either.  You would think that I have learned my lesson after the second time, but no, third time’s a charm.

Guy number 3 was introduced to me through a mutual friend.  We hit it off immediately, but I found out once again, about 3 months in, that he was going to go on an around the world trip for 2 months. I don’t know what it is with me and guys who want to leave the country after 3 months of dating me, but it wasn’t something I wasn’t already use to, so the two of us agreed to stay in touch while he was on his excursion.  We texted just about everyday and did video calls whenever he had decent reception.  I waited for him for 2 months, and it has paid off.  We are still together, and have also agreed to not take trips longer than 2 weeks without each other.

I not saying long distance is for everyone.  It takes a lot of patience, understanding, and trust.  But if you can get over this hump, everything else is a piece of pie.  I have a friend who met someone long distance, dated him long distance, and is now married to him and they’re still long distance.  If you want to be with someone, you make it work.  No matter the odds.

☮❤︎☆

Top: Who What Wear / Shorts: My own vintage collection (similar look on sale) / Shoes: Steve Madden / Sunnies: zeroUV (sold out | similar look) / Earrings: Charming Charlie (on sale)

Photographed by Stefanie Meier

BUSY AF

Happy Friday everyone!  Wow, it has been a good minute since I last did a blog post.  My bad!  I didn’t mean to neglect my blog, but I have been busy AF this past month.  First it was my birthday, then the trip to Tulum, Mexico, and now I’m headed to Shanghai, China tomorrow for another two weeks!

Enough of my excuses.  I wanted to write this post to 1) let y’all know that I’m alive and still here, 2) post these pretty pictures that are too good to be left on just my hard drive, and 3) talk about the juggling of four part-time jobs.  Yes, I said FOUR.  I’ve mentioned in the past that I’m an actress, but I’m also a social media consultant, a fashion/lifestyle blogger, AND a server at a WeHo restaurant.  I know it’s not as glamorous as it sounds now that I’ve bursted the bubble of a LA-blogger, but we all have to make ends meet.  And being a server helps me do just that…make ends meet.

So, while other bloggers who have day jobs get to go home and type up a blog post or grab a drink and chat it up at some new product launch event, I get to go from my day job(s) to my night job.  This makes social media engagements and dating quite hard because I have such little time to do everything that usually requires a full-time job dedication.

Here’s how I try to time manage my life so that I can make sure I still have the time to work on Kangthropologie and keep my sanity:

HAVE YOUR “WEEKEND”

While most people would think weekends pertain to Saturdays and Sundays, my weekend starts on Sunday.  I make sure that I give myself at least two days per week to not do “work” work.  That means no consulting, no acting classes, no server shifts, nada.  (Disclaimer: obviously I make exceptions if it’s an audition or a shoot since that’s priority numero uno).  I make Sundays my date day and Mondays my photoshoot day.  Since I don’t shoot every week, the Mondays I have off are time spent watching Netflix, Kdrama and hanging out in my PJs all day.

HAVE A “LIFE”

It’s really hard to have fun and actually enjoy life when you’re too busy working all four jobs from day to night, which is why I have decided to scale back on my social media posts and engagements in order to give myself time to actually enjoy what I’m blogging about.

As I just mentioned, I recently went to Tulum and had the most incredible time!  (Blog post about my Tulum trip is coming up next).  We could have gone and just shot great content all day, but then we would have missed out on the beauty and fun there is to have there.  While I normally post once a day on Instagram, I decided that I didn’t want to be worrying about engagement and only posted every other day.  I’m not recommending this to any influencers out there who are taking this more seriously than I am; however, there’s only 24 hours in a day and I don’t have any assistance or interns for help, so something has got to give.  In this particular case, I decided to scale back on social media engagements and posts.

MAKE EVERY HOUR COUNT

For those of you out there that already have a significant other, congrats.  Kiss your man/woman and thank them for sticking by your side.  For me, it’s really hard to date when you don’t even have time to call your own mother.  REALLY hard.  But I try to make time by making every hour count.  Sundays are our days to hangout, but if I’m out of town or have previous plans then we only have the few hours during the week that we can talk on the phone or meet up for a drink.  If your love life is a priority, then make sure you make time for it.

DON’T TAKE IT TOO SERIOUSLY

I know I say this too lightly and could offend a lot of bloggers, brands, and content creators out there that do this full-time, but, don’t take social media too seriously.  It’s a great creative outlet, and people can make some serious dough doing this well.  But know that this is all digital and stored up in cyberspace.  Your life should not be fully dependent on how many likes, followers and views you get.  Yes, work hard, build relationships with brands, and create beautiful, original content, but please make sure you stop and smell the flowers while you’re doing it.  Have a drink (or two) at that social media industry event, but be sure to meet some great people and don’t make it all about posting that perfect selfie.

I’ll be MIA again for the next couple of weeks due to internet restrictions in China, but I’ll be sure to sneak onto VPN here and there and post some fabulous pics.  My next post will be talking about what to really expect when you travel to Tulum, Mexico.  Have a great Memorial Weekend everyone!

Top: ZARA / Denim: Levi’s / Sunglasses: My own (similar look) / Shoes: EMU Australia / Bag: ZARA / Watch: Daniel Wellington / Crescent Necklace: Gorjana / Necklace: Gorjana

Photographed by Mire Yang

DINNER AND A MOVIE

Some people might find that a dinner and a movie is outdated and too boring of a date, but I find that there’s a romanticism to doing the good old classic date night.  Here’s my take on my dinner and movie date this past Sunday:

I recently started talking to a new guy, (and fingers crossed he’s not into reading fashion blogs), and we went and watched Disney’s live-action remake of Beauty and the Beast.  How he was convinced to go watch this movie, I’m not quite sure, but I’ll talk more about my review on the movie in just a bit.

So, he came over and we chatted briefly in my small studio.  Yes, I invited him in instead of him just picking me up because this is our fifth date, and I think it’s fair that we get to see where each other lives.  For those of you that don’t know, I live in a studio near The Grove.  We decide that I needed to be fed since he was at a kid’s birthday party right before, and I’m sure he’s had his share of cake.  However, I hadn’t eaten anything thinking we might get dinner so I was starving.

We opt for sushi since I’m a pescatarian, and went to Itacho Sushi since it’s close to the movie theater.  We tell each other what we like on the menu, and he asks me my top three favorite rolls off the menu.  Now listen up ladies, this is where you can really find out about a guy’s consideration for you: how does he order food for two?  Well, new guy orders everything that I said I liked, and skipped over his choices.  Yes, he’s that sweet.

We eat quickly since the movie is about to start, and he picks up the check.  I decided to pay for our movie tickets because I think it’s nice when a girl does her share of the date.  I don’t mean pay for everything, since that’s usually a gentlemen thing to do.  However, we are in the 21st century ladies, and women are still fighting for equality and rights.  We can’t expect men to pay for everything and then demand that we want equal pay.  Anyway, I know that I make less than him, but I pick up the check whenever I can as long as it fits into my budget.  Besides, he also picked up the popcorn and drink for the movie.

Now, onto the actual movie itself.  What’s my overall take on the movie without giving too much away?  It’s pretty much verbatim of the animated film with a few additional scenes that I felt unnecessary.  The movie was dragged out, and I think the songs were also sang too slowly.  I miss Jerry Orbach’s voice for the character, Lumière, and the CGI characters were missing the mark on their original character’s wittiness and charm.  I did love the opening scene of Belle and the provincial town, but everything else was just meh.

However, our movie date was just great.  We shared popcorn and the occasional light kisses during the movie.  This may be a typical boring date, but I think it’s these small moments that you share that brings you closer to one another.  Thanks for reading and happy Tuesday everyone!

Dress: Novella Royale (sold out | similar look) / Sunglasses: Melrose Trading Post stand (similar look)

Photographed by Stefanie Marie

HOME

Happy Monday everyone!  It’s finally Christmas week, and I’m headed home to Texas soon.  Yay!  I’m very excited that I get to be home again this Christmas!  It may not make sense to some, but being an actress in LA, I don’t always get to go home to celebrate the holidays with my family.  It’s times like this that I’m so appreciative of my family, of their love and support, and the fact that we have the ability to travel and see one another.

I may have just celebrated my 8th year here in Los Angeles, but I still feel like home is back in Dallas, TX.  When I go back and visit my family though, it’s no longer in the house where I grew up.  This just makes me wonder: at what point then do we call a city/town our home?  My driver’s license says California, my mailing address says Los Angeles, and every important document of mine is registered to my address in California.  However, my heart still says Texas.  Perhaps that’s because most of my pivotal childhood memories come from growing up in Dallas.  I guess I’ll always be a Texas gal…

Message of the Day: no matter where you are physically in the world, I hope you have a place called “home” that you can go to for the holidays.

This beautiful Faithfull the Brand Le Paris Dress is from PB&J Boutique.  They have so many great vintage inspired clothing, and they offer free shipping both ways.  Be sure to check them out online, and if you’re local to Chico, CA, check them out at their store.

Also, I recently received some TribeTats to try and use in my photoshoots, and I ABSOLUTELY love them!  They are so easy to use and apply, and I had no problems removing them afterwards with their metallic tattoo remover.  I will definitely be using these more often in my boho-inspired looks.

Faithfull the Brand Le Paris Dress / Lack of Color Montana Stahl Hat / Steve Madden Desirred Ankle Boot in Cognac (sold out | similar look on clearance!) / Free People Cropped Long Sleeve / TribeTats Onyx Goddess Temporary Tattoo

This is probably my last post until after Christmas, so Happy Holidays and Merry Christmas everyone!  Have a blessed time with family and friends, and I’ll be sure to post some wonderful after-Christmas SALES soon so be sure to tune in!

Photographed by Hanna Snyder

CONTENT

Not sure what sparked me to type this up, but perhaps it was a recent conversation I had with my sister about happiness.  She’s got a VERY busy job, and both her and her husband work in the financial corporate world.  They have two beautiful boys in elementary and a big ass house in Dallas.  They go on vacation at least 3-4 times a year, and we’re not talking a trip to the zoo.  I mean serious week long vacations to the Caribbean, Costa Rica, or on a cruise to somewhere also tropical.  My nephews have been to Hawaii more times than me and I’m a grown adult, (kind of).

With all that said, my sister still feels like she’s not spending enough quality time with her kids.  Her life is wrapped around making her family happy, but that means she has to work harder and make more money to support their “happiness”.  Their quality of life seems to get more and more expensive.

I’m a single female, never been married, and don’t have any kids other than my dog.  My happiness and joy come from very different aspects than my sister, but I couldn’t help but ask her this one simple question: at what point are you content with life?  We all strive hard to be successful in our own careers, and have goals that we want to obtain in life.  But at what point are we content with what we have and can sustain that moment of happiness?

I say this with as much frivolity as possible since all this is just bullshit coming from a FASHION blogger.  Yes, someone who thrives on the most ostentatious things in life that means nothing when this is all said and done.  But I hope we all take a moment and think about our health, our family, our happiness, and go into the upcoming new year with positive thoughts, obtainable goals, and contentment with who and where we are at the present moment.  Happy holidays everyone! Xo!

LA Made Jackson DressDante Block Heel Boot / LA Made Reed Duster Cardigan / Nicole Vienna Soir Nº79 Link Watch / Vintage Gucci Horse Chain Bag

Photographed by Silvia Moreno

IT TAKES TWO

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I’ve been single majority of my life.  I’ve had roommates here and there, but I prefer living on my own, (with my dog of course).  There are only a limited number of times where I felt like I “needed” to live or be with someone.  Wearing this Free People Margarita Flamingo Maxi Dress was one of them.

Don’t get me wrong, this dress is absolutely beautiful with a very sexy, boho silhouette.  The keyhole front shows off the girls, while the lace up back gives the illusion of latin flare.  However, in order to lace yourself up perfectly from the back, you either need someone there to help you, OR, you need double jointed arms.  I guess I could always train my dog to help me, but I would need to hire Cesar the Dog Whisperer for this crazy trick-out-of-the-bag.

My recommendation if you plan on purchasing this dress, (which is on sale), is to make sure you live with a roommate or your significant other.  Otherwise, have patience and more than a half hour to lace yourself in and out of this dress.
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Forever 21 Platform Booties (no longer available | similar look) / Lack of Color The Stahl Boater Hat / Mejuri Tuxedo Necklace / River Island Evil Eye Choker Necklace

I’m a hopeless romantic and I will always be open and honest about my feelings.  Things sometimes work out and sometimes it doesn’t.  This trip to Taiwan has been an eye opening experience, and I will take what I’ve learned from this long distance relationship with me.

Photographed by Mire Yang

GOING THE DISTANCE

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I’m currently in Taipei, Taiwan hanging out with a guy that I met only 6 months ago and have only dated 3 of those 6 months.  We’ve been together for about the same amount of time as we’ve been apart.  I don’t recommend this to anyone, but I’m in a long distance relationship.  A real LONG DISTANCE relationship.  One that is about a Pacific Ocean apart.

Sure it’s been tough trying to keep the spark alive, but we do very well communicating even with the time change.  He’s exactly 15 hours ahead of me, and has to travel back in time everyday to say hello to me.  We use the app WeChat to text, call, and video chat one another.  Since he’s in China majority of the time, it’s easier for us to text and talk than to attempt a poor signal video chat.

I’ve had my doubts and paranoia, but it’s been a god-send to have my best girlfriends snap me out of my crazy thoughts and antics.  I guess the main thing I would say about this is to have TRUST.  You have to trust one another no matter what.  If you don’t have that basic foundation, there’s no point in going any further.  I know it’s easier said than done, coming from the person who just went through an episode right before typing up this blog post.  But yeah, you need to think that you’re both in it to win it.

Boy toy is gone for half a year, so to shorten that time frame, I decided to fly half way around the world to join him in Asia.  I’ve known friends in the past that have done the same in their long distance relationships.  Some have worked out and ended in marriage, and some are long gone like last year’s fringe footwear.  This isn’t my first long distance relationship, so hopefully I’ve learned from the past:

Take things slowly.

Don’t over commit.

Always communicate EVERYTHING, no matter how minute you think the issue is.

Don’t text while frustrated.  You’re not getting your message across.  Trust me.

Texts are subjective when read.

Sarcasm doesn’t always play well in texts.

Enjoy each others voices.

Savor those moments when you do video chat.

That’s about all I know.  Here’s to listening to my own advice ~
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ASOS Velvet Pearl Choker Necklace

No relationship is ever easy, even if you’re not long distance.  I’m a hopeless romantic and like to think that there’s always love and light at the end of the tunnel.  Do you think I’m crazy for flying so far to see about a boy, or do you think it’s a romantic gesture?  I’m curious to know what the rest of the sane world thinks.  Let me know!

Photographed by Hanna Snyder